I voted no.....however....sigh.........I have the expectation that absolutely nothing will be ready, I will be bartending while the food is getting ready and my favorite.....when I pull up in the fucking driveway, I will get a text message asking me if I can stop at the store and pick up some damn ice.....smdh.
This is why I like white functions (preface: the white people that I can trust to hang with and cook). The food is ready and if it isn't there are appetizers, the drank is on point, and the most I have to do is maybe slice some lemons and limes for my vodka tonics.
I say all of this to say that I love my black folk, however, we special....lol!
I think it’s rude to tell someone to be there at a certain time and the food hasn’t even been started. So I’m trying to break the cycle. When people come to my events food will be ready. Come late if you want you gonna miss out on the hot links and the steaks and shrimp. But Im sure there will be plenty of hotdogs left over.
It’s not rude, but it’s a pain in everybody’s ass.
Nothing is ready. Nobody is there yet. The host is still wearing whatever they woke up in.
When I was a kid, we always got to events too early. Which meant that, by the time people started really showing up, we were ready to go. One time, my dad realized we were early, by the lack of cars at the house, and literally said “Fuck this!”, and went back home. But then he and my mom had their own “party of two”, and proceeded to fall asleep - so we ended up not going anywhere.
I don't want to have to work or talk more than I have to. Also, quiet as it's kept, I was taught in etiquette class that it is rude to show up early or right on the dot no matter who it is-unless it's like a movie or restaurant date or a wedding (even that can have some exceptions-them Brazilians start mad late).
The reason I was given is that the host or hostess might be running a smidge behind schedule or need to gather themselves after rushing around. That being said, when it is a white function, I show up fashionably late or within 10 minutes of the start time or as late as I can (depending on the event and who the host is). For functions with our people, it is on a case-by-case basis.
You gon get put to work.
I am cracking up...I wouldn't say outright rude. But definitely annoying af????????
This is why TBGWT is my favorite podcast because where else are you going to hear Hennessey rates, hmm no where else. That whole segment was chef kisses and Rod and Karen's commentary had me lmao. Now, in regards to the poll I voted no but now that I think about it, I don't show up on time because shit ain't never ready and I be hangry so after years of trial and error I have learned to either eat a little snack before I go or be late because I don't want to help set up nor do I want to cook food.
Soooo, ok I voted no but listen if you come early and you’re family/friend your gonna definitely be part of the set up crew. If you’re a rando showing up right on time your presence gonna put pressure on the host and that could be annoying ????????♀️ Plus next time your ass won’t be invited or you will be told a special time to show up.