I just learned this week that my family is related to the Hatfields, I said it's neat were related to a famous family, but I'd rather it be any other family than that one, lol. But as they say, you can't pick your kin.
Neither side was good. Both were cowards, murderers, and drunks caught up in a ridiculous pissing match which cost both sides the lives of their loved ones. When your pride and temper are worth more than the lives of your family or anybody else's loved ones for that matter , you're not a good person. Both sides were equally to blame for the bloodshed.