My solution is simple treat others with dignity but stay in your lane like that you show respect but you reduce your frustrations. I approach young black teen boys like their children and "Hi Honey" them to death because they're kids. I show warmth and compassion to the pregnant teen whether or not we exchange in convo is irrelevant simple courtesies are contagious. You see you don't have to be all lean on me to make small impacts unless you were called to be Mr Clark and if that's the case then let me get your speakerphone sir.
And I'm out for real.
XOXO,
Miss Krysable
Miss Krysable - 12 years ago
Umm since I'm kinda contrarian in general especially toward Rod I had to pick option C. Truth be told I haven't come up with a complete and cohesive response to the whole hood rat thing but since you brought it up once again...ROD and as the official boobs of the show (since folks like to throw around their official titles n what not now) I decided to release my formal statement:
First at the end of the day Mr Gates sounds like a burnt out human service worker or educator. I believe he worked with special ed kids in the past. So his feelings probably come from a place of prior over-exuberant good intentions and when progress wasn't being made bitterness and contentment. As someone who works in the human services sector I can totally empathize with the Dark Hater. I guess people would call my past and present clients hood rats from teen moms in group homes to single mothers recovering from decades long substance abuse issues. I believe that one of the reasons why I haven't burnt out or become disenchanted and cynical is that internally I can't deny anyone their dignity because doing that denies their core humanity. I also feel that I came from a good amount of privilege since I swear my dad is Bill Cosby's cousin from NC and that in itself compels me to help but also protects me in many ways. I feel that if one wrong thing happened in my life I would probably be hoodratting it up too. I feel that this is true for everyone, there's plenty of room for everyone at rock bottom.
The difference with wallowing in despair and climbing out has partly to do with risk and protective factors people have built up throughout the years. It's like baggage. If you "Erykah Badu it up" you are able to move faster but if you have built up baggage from in your mothers womb (ie low birth weight, little prenatal care, low income, dysfunctional family history) you're journey is going to be tough especially if everyone around you is continually adding on to the baggage every day whether its lack of positive images fostered by your mother and low expectations from your teachers. It is awesome to think that we as black people do have super powers but the matter of fact is that we do not. Yes we are fearfully and wonderfully made, resilient and awesome to the infinite degree of awesomeness but to think that broke communities not individuals but whole communities can just lift themselves by their bootstraps and be awesome...in America is some Ron Paul type ish. The civil rights era can definitely be seen as a double edged sword. On the one hand without a doubt those efforts emboldened folks to go super sayian but on the other hand most of those upwardly mobile black folk moved out of the black neighborhoods taking their money and business out of there as well so that and deindustrialization kinda messed up the more blue collar black folks in less affluent areas financially. In the 50s and 60s the census said black folks were some marrying folks but factors like integration, revamped institutionalized racism via drug infiltration leading to mass incarceration lead to the down fall of the black family unit implanting and normalizing a cracked foundation impacting future generations in other words, "Daddy's gone and aint coming back". Sad to say that this got brought home to me watching Love Hip Hop ATL. There was that moment when I saw that humanity that lost girl in that skallywag Joseliiine which prompted me to write. I know this is vocabulacious but at the beginning middle and end of the day it begins and ends with "daddys". This is also true for the little boys on that show as well including that smurf Stevie J and that lil chap Lil Scrappy (reminds me of Scooby Doo's nephew).
Let me know whether or not this makes sense.
XOXO,
Miss Krysable
Incontinenticus Butticus - 12 years ago
Nigga, you can't have the Dark hater on to promote it, have Karen tear a strip off him for it, and then name an episode about it, and then say you're tired of talking about it. You opened this Pandora's box full of hoodrats, now you gotta ride it out until the shit peters out.
Gaby - 12 years ago
LOL! Sorry, but the steve richards character from south carolina HAS got to be a joke....
Leila - 12 years ago
I don't think many of these so-called "hood rats" are listening to The Black Guy who Tips podcast. Maybe they would listen to "The Black guy who just got out of jail and only has TWO baby's Mommas" Podcast. So that whole "hey 'regular' black women, this one isn't directed at you" excuse doesn't work.
O from C - 12 years ago
Can we count red neck, drinking rum from the bottle while pregnant in the trailer park illegal tobacco smoking pajama bottoms with a tank top wearing white chicks as hood rats?
Isaiah - 12 years ago
Nigga I don't care bout no hoodrats go talk to hater...
My solution is simple treat others with dignity but stay in your lane like that you show respect but you reduce your frustrations. I approach young black teen boys like their children and "Hi Honey" them to death because they're kids. I show warmth and compassion to the pregnant teen whether or not we exchange in convo is irrelevant simple courtesies are contagious. You see you don't have to be all lean on me to make small impacts unless you were called to be Mr Clark and if that's the case then let me get your speakerphone sir.
And I'm out for real.
XOXO,
Miss Krysable
Umm since I'm kinda contrarian in general especially toward Rod I had to pick option C. Truth be told I haven't come up with a complete and cohesive response to the whole hood rat thing but since you brought it up once again...ROD and as the official boobs of the show (since folks like to throw around their official titles n what not now) I decided to release my formal statement:
First at the end of the day Mr Gates sounds like a burnt out human service worker or educator. I believe he worked with special ed kids in the past. So his feelings probably come from a place of prior over-exuberant good intentions and when progress wasn't being made bitterness and contentment. As someone who works in the human services sector I can totally empathize with the Dark Hater. I guess people would call my past and present clients hood rats from teen moms in group homes to single mothers recovering from decades long substance abuse issues. I believe that one of the reasons why I haven't burnt out or become disenchanted and cynical is that internally I can't deny anyone their dignity because doing that denies their core humanity. I also feel that I came from a good amount of privilege since I swear my dad is Bill Cosby's cousin from NC and that in itself compels me to help but also protects me in many ways. I feel that if one wrong thing happened in my life I would probably be hoodratting it up too. I feel that this is true for everyone, there's plenty of room for everyone at rock bottom.
The difference with wallowing in despair and climbing out has partly to do with risk and protective factors people have built up throughout the years. It's like baggage. If you "Erykah Badu it up" you are able to move faster but if you have built up baggage from in your mothers womb (ie low birth weight, little prenatal care, low income, dysfunctional family history) you're journey is going to be tough especially if everyone around you is continually adding on to the baggage every day whether its lack of positive images fostered by your mother and low expectations from your teachers. It is awesome to think that we as black people do have super powers but the matter of fact is that we do not. Yes we are fearfully and wonderfully made, resilient and awesome to the infinite degree of awesomeness but to think that broke communities not individuals but whole communities can just lift themselves by their bootstraps and be awesome...in America is some Ron Paul type ish. The civil rights era can definitely be seen as a double edged sword. On the one hand without a doubt those efforts emboldened folks to go super sayian but on the other hand most of those upwardly mobile black folk moved out of the black neighborhoods taking their money and business out of there as well so that and deindustrialization kinda messed up the more blue collar black folks in less affluent areas financially. In the 50s and 60s the census said black folks were some marrying folks but factors like integration, revamped institutionalized racism via drug infiltration leading to mass incarceration lead to the down fall of the black family unit implanting and normalizing a cracked foundation impacting future generations in other words, "Daddy's gone and aint coming back". Sad to say that this got brought home to me watching Love Hip Hop ATL. There was that moment when I saw that humanity that lost girl in that skallywag Joseliiine which prompted me to write. I know this is vocabulacious but at the beginning middle and end of the day it begins and ends with "daddys". This is also true for the little boys on that show as well including that smurf Stevie J and that lil chap Lil Scrappy (reminds me of Scooby Doo's nephew).
Let me know whether or not this makes sense.
XOXO,
Miss Krysable
Nigga, you can't have the Dark hater on to promote it, have Karen tear a strip off him for it, and then name an episode about it, and then say you're tired of talking about it. You opened this Pandora's box full of hoodrats, now you gotta ride it out until the shit peters out.
LOL! Sorry, but the steve richards character from south carolina HAS got to be a joke....
I don't think many of these so-called "hood rats" are listening to The Black Guy who Tips podcast. Maybe they would listen to "The Black guy who just got out of jail and only has TWO baby's Mommas" Podcast. So that whole "hey 'regular' black women, this one isn't directed at you" excuse doesn't work.
Can we count red neck, drinking rum from the bottle while pregnant in the trailer park illegal tobacco smoking pajama bottoms with a tank top wearing white chicks as hood rats?
Nigga I don't care bout no hoodrats go talk to hater...