Have you ever been the only black friend in a group?
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  • Jonathan - 7 years ago

    I went to an predominantly white all boys Catholic school in Philadelphia. My close friends were diverse but quite a few white guys. I became far more selective when one of my so-called friends went on a tirade about how he hated all the niggers in the school during study hall. He turned to me and said not you, you're one of the good ones. A couple months later when the school had two days of racially motivated fights the list of white guys I would tconsider friend material was less than a handful.

  • I'm Just Sayin - 7 years ago

    I have been the only black friend several times. I went to a predominately white, private all-girls school in the DC area. I went there for about six years. So they are my childhood friends in a way. The thing is, this area of the country can be incredibly liberal. Also, my friends were all white girls. I think that is how my experience has differed from yours.

    I think white women can elect to hold on to their liberal opinions a little longer. Then again...maybe their opinions will change when they have kids or they get older. Maybe when we all hit 40, they will be like one of the white women that voted for Romney....

    The thing is, i remember getting in a heated conversation on a Facebook post after Mike Brown was killed but before Eric Garner was killed. And there was this lively conversation about body cameras being the solution to police misconduct. I stated that it didn't matter. We would just have footage of black people being killed and they will still be held responsible for their own death...Anyway, I made this comment that basically said this other person on the thread (a friend of a friend) was racist because of something she said. And the racist girl then preceded to say she felt attacked and how could I say something about her like that if I didn't even know her. Another person chimed in and said that people would be more understanding if I altered the way I convey my message. I was getting ready to write a response when my friend beat me to it. She laid in on the other girl. Told me that I'm allowed to be passionate because people are dying. That I didn't have to change my message at all. That the other girl was wrong and will continue to be wrong. And I don't think that girl has ever commented on anything I have seen again. I don't know if my friend blocked her or not...but I appreciated her more that day.

    I must be really lucky. Hopefully, this stays the same.

  • Akhim Abdullah - 7 years ago

    I have and a refuse to let that happen again. I felt like my blackness was trivialized. Anytime something vaguely race related happened I would get those awkward shoulder rubs and crappy jokes. I finally had it one day when one of my white friends called one of my cousins a nigger. Then acted like I was supposed to be on with it.

  • Akhim Abdullah - 7 years ago

    I have and a refuse to let that happen again. I felt like my blackness was trivialized. Anytime something vaguely race related I would get those awkward shoulder rubs crappy Jones. I finally had it one day when one of my white friends called one of my cousins a nigger. Then acted like I was supposed to be on with it.

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