My wife has never once suggested I contact her at work. She is a school teacher so cant leave class to socialize on the phone. But my wife loves control and very efficient and good at getting things done. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times she has initiated sex with me. I now live in Mongolia for 5 years, she doesn't want to live with me and has/had several men friends and admits to going out with them. She is 66 and I am 68, we are still "married", after 39 yeas of marriage. We have 4 sons and 7 grand children. What do we need to do to get back together again.