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My husband and I have one beautiful daughter. I can no longer bear children and it is heartbreaking. We are farmers in southern MN. We have a good life but cannot afford fertility treatments. Please, don't abort. I would be more than ecstatic to adopt your child as many others would.
While I am pro-choice, I choose not to vote in this poll strictly due to my belief that this is not and should not be my decision to make. This is your pregnancy, your body, your potential life that you will be responsible for- not mine. I wouldn't want to tell someone that didn't want to have kids to go through with a pregnancy for my own reasons. By now you ought to be more than aware of any options you have whether they be keeping the baby, having an abortion, or adoption. This being said, I hope your decision isn't truly dependent on a vote like this- namely because this isn't even you sitting on the fence about what to do- it appears to be wholly independent of the gravity of the decision to have children.
I don't know if this is real or a game... but I chose Give Birth. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over six years without success. I would do anything to have my own child. Here you are given a gift that you take so much for granted that you look at this tiny life as something ... I don't know... something immaterial or unimportant. I don't judge people who choose abortion, but if there's a shadow of doubt in this decision as it is, then it means you want to keep this baby, treasure the miracle that creating a life is, and raise this little thing into a whole person. If you can't do that, then carry it to term and offer someone who wants nothing more in this world than to pour their love and soul into the baby's life. Please, keep him if not for yourselves, then for someone who will do their best to offer him or her a good life.
I have just come across this story in Australia and am so appalled to think that this is the path the world is heading down that life is just a mere voting poll. You people disgust me and I'm a reasonably open minded person. Now if this poor baby was diagnosed with a disability or perhaps there was a chance of either mother or baby dying during labour due to complications that may arise, I can very well understand that you may consider abortion but from what I've read your baby seems healthy and so do you as a mother (we all have things that happen along the way which may be unpleasant) I hope you have this baby and he/she is healthy and fine but that this pititful and disturbing act that you have decided to go thru haunts you every day of your childs life. You're are both sick and immoral and to the 1000's of couples out there in this world who would give their right arm to have the chance to be in your shoes may you never have sound sleep again!
At this point in time, I'm sure you aren't even reading these posts but I feel that u should still voice my opinion. After all, you wouldn't have made this poll if you didn't want to hear the publics opinion. I, like many others, have been trying to have a baby for 2 and a half years now. I'm doing things in the right order and am happily married but it turns out, the one thing I've wanted my whole life is harder to come by than I thought. My point is, whether you believe in God or not, he has a master plan for every life... Including the life of an unborn child. If you truly do not believe that you are ready or meant to be parents, give the poor child a chance and let a woman Ike me fulfill her lifelong dream of being a mother. Based on this site even existing , adoption may be that Childs best bet anyways! God bless you and your child
I think your mental health should be checked. Whether you choose to have an abortion or not I do not think you be legally allowed to keep this child. I am saddened that you are playing with life in this way :o(
Have the baby for god sakes!!!! I'm not going to criticize you and badmouth you on the internet but I will say that leaving the option for other people to vote is ludicrous. I'm a mother or 2 and I'm 24 years old. I was not ready for a child either but I know from experience that the best things in life come in surprises. My son just turned a year old 2 weeks ago and they were not even sure if he would live or I would for that matter. I have one kidney and was on the verge every week of getting preeclampsia but I took care of myself. With my son in my first ultrasound at 18 weeks I was diagnosed with placental lakes. For those of you who don't know what that is, it's pools of maternal blood that form around the baby. In the third trimester they are common but in the first and second they can be bad. What happens is the pools of blood take all the nutrients and food supply from the baby. With alot of cases they resulted in really low birth weight, deformities (such as speech, body structure, and brain functions), or even death. I was scared and was worried I would never get to meet my son. I stuck it out and made it to delivery and what do you know!! My little 10lb MIRACLE. Yes 10lbs. Well almost 10. He weighed 9lbs 14oz and was 22 3/4inches long. The pools didn't take his nutrients from him and hurt him. To this day I wonder how big he would have been without that risk. He is very smart and healthy and not one thing is wrong with him. He speaks really good and eats like no other. I was able to make it through everyday because I remembered that there are always miracles and every pregnancy is different. You will regret the abortion if you do it because there is always that what if? a mother will always have. The baby is bonded with you as well as you are with it. And let me tell you, once you hear the heartbeat for the first time, your stuck like glue. I could not imagine one day without either of my babies because when the world gets tough, they help you move on and pick up the pieces. Our children are the glue that hold us together. Just think about it and remember that the baby can feel everything you feel no matter what age and the more you want it, the stronger the bond. The less, the weaker the bond. Your choice. No one elses..
You people disgust me. I hope when he is born someone takes him from you guys and gives him to a family that deserves a child. You do not.
Please do the child a favour, do not bring it into the world. If this is your mental and physical best you should be sterilised instead.
I would never judge someone on their decision to abort a child or not, but in this case I have absolutely no problem saying this - you are two of the most immature, self-centered, heartless individuals I have ever heard of. I cannot fathom what your poor parents must be feeling, knowing that you are leaving the life of their grandchild up to the outcome of a fucking internet poll! Whether or not this is hoax, it is a disgusting display of character. Know that you both will have to live with these choices for the rest of your lives - I hope its worth it.
How can you even ask a question like this? There are people in this world who would die to have a baby and one of those people are me! I lost my baby close to 3 months in and its been one month and im still devestated how could you even think of terminating a innocent child so far along? You are going to rely on people to make that decsion for you? If thats the case then you do not deserve this child. Grow up!
I hope that you will make the choice to let this little baby experience life. I am a parent of two little boys, and I too was scared when I first found out I was to be a parent. Parenthood is indeed a huge responsibility and not to be taken lightly. But life is also an incredible miracle, not to be taken lightly either.
Perhaps you are not meant to be parents. Please give someone else the gift to parenting this child--it would be the most meaningful thing you could ever do for another human being. I would love to adopt your baby, as we are considering the process of foreign adoption and will be waiting years to see a child. I'm sure there are many other loving and worthy parents who feel the same.
first two make me sick when i first saw this on the news i just could not believe what i saw or heard. i mean there are many people out in the world who want to have kids but herer you two are in the cities who want to have people vote on what you two dummies should do to either have the child or not i mean grow up people. i have had a few family members in my family who has lost their babies and i see them suffer and here you two just want to give urs up just because you arent ready or made a mistake by getting pregnant again. i mean you two are how old havent you heard of condoms and birth control?? having a baby is a special event in a couples life and in ur situation it seems like u had a special moment by conceiving the child and now u had your fun and now just want to get rid of it so you can go do this again i mean if you dont want kids and do this stupid shit go get ur balls snipped or get ur damn tubes tied and never be able to have kids again i mean people out there work really hard to have kids and here you two are taking a vote to decide to keep the unborn child or not this shit is very stupid and cant. another thing for you people saying all the christians out there keep telling them not to abort the baby and blaming it on our religion. not every catholic out there believes in abortion but there are some other who do and that is their choice . not every christian is a bible thumper and believes everything in it. we are just very concerning people and when we see this we just want the unborn child to be born and put up for adoption so he or she can live a life that the maturnal parents dont want to give it. so do the right choice and give birth. look your parents let you be born so you should do the same for this child !!!
All life is precious.
Please Please give this baby a chance you know there are so many people who would take care of this baby if you can't. Can you imagine finding out that your parents decided if you were going to live or die by an internet poll? Pretty sick.
So as I try to understand this you had 2 previous miscarriages? If you didn't want to have a baby or think you are too young to be parents, where in the hell is the BIRTH CONTROL?!? Abortion is not meant to be a substitute for birth control!!! I truly hope that some attorney see's this poll and fights for "Baby Wiggles" to deem you 2 as unfit parents and has CPS take this poor baby away from you! Who in their right mind would continue having unprotected sex to conceive a child (whom seems to be completely healthy) only to have an online poll about whether they should have an abortion or not? Something is definitely wrong with this picture! I've had 2 miscarriages and have numerous health problems and had a bunch of pregnancy complications but yet I still gave birth and now have 3 healthy children. And I was only 20 (and married) with my first! How can you live with yourself, knowing that you planned to give life and then possibly take it away? I am truly hoping this is a joke... (a very sick one!)
The fears you have now are the same fears that all prospective parents have. I am 34, 14 weeks pregnant with our third child, and my husband just turned 41. Our son is a special needs child who suffers from a physically painful genetic disorder. We have a 50 percent chance of any of our children having the same disorder. There are prenatal tests that could detect the disorder, and our doctors have made it clear that abortion is an option for us. Here are my questions to them: What is it about my son's life that makes it not worth living? How could I ever explain, even to myself, that I want my son, but not another child like him? Where do we draw the line on who gets to live and who doesn't? Why do I get to decide to terminate a life while the child is growing in my body, and not at the moment of birth? I heard the heartbeat of our new baby when at just 10 weeks gestation. Clearly, there is a living human being moving and growing inside me right now.
Losing a baby to miscarriage is not the same as abortion. The miscarriage is not your choice and not your fault. If you decide to abort, you will have to live with that choice for the rest of your life.
I strongly urge you to seek counseling at a Total Life Care Center. Please give birth to this child.
The whole idea of abortion makes me sick!! This is an unborn child!! What if this child is to become a Dr and God forbid in your old age you get a disease that nobody else can figure out how to cure and as a Dr he does find a cure for you, but oh wait, how can that happen if you abort him??? How can you play God?? Would you take the kids that you already have and kill them?? It is honestly the same thing!! Either way it is MURDER!!! He is not a fetus, he is a child! If you cannot afford to raise another child or feel that you do not have enough love for another child then please adopt him out, I beg of you!!! There are so many people out there that would love to raise him, just give him a chance, please!! You and this young baby boy (your son) are in my prayers!!!
PLEASE if you don't feel ready to be parents, respect this little boy's right to live and give him up for adoption! I will happily adopt your son if you cannot/ will not raise him. I already have 2 little boys and he would have a good life in my family. My heart is breaking for you; it is not just your lives you affect. Please give your son a chance!
ADOPTION....ADOPTION.....ADOPTION.....the ONLY answer for you! That baby deserves a chance and the only way he or she will get one is adoption. Anyone who would put up a poll on the interenet about whether or not they should have a baby is not ready for a baby for sure! In fact, someone, even worse TWO someones, with that mindset should be scheduling ASAP for vasectomy and tubal ligation because you will NEVER be ready to be a parent with that kind of sick thought process...BUT you ARE pregnant, so I think you should have the baby and IMMEDIATELY surrender it for adoption.....just as soon as the cord gets cut BY THE DOCTOR!!! Then before they stitch you up, they should remove everything in you that has any chance of reproducing ever again...How sad and disgusting.
I do NOT understand how a married couple who recently tried, 2 times no less, to have a child and lost that child would even CONSIDER doing this. This is a LIFE growing inside of you. I would agree you are VERY selfish people and DO NOT deserve a child and should not have one, but that does not mean kill this baby. There are SO many families ( I know several personally) who would love the chance to hold a little one in their arms and take them home to raise them and teach them all the things life has to offer. GIVE THIS BABY UP FOR ADOPTION!!!!!!!!! I pray when he/she is born they find out what you have done and they will make you feel the way you are making others feel right now by doing the most ignorant, selfish, inhumane thing I have EVER seen a person do. GOD HELP YOU!!!!!
As a mother of two, I refused to vote in your sick poll. If you need something as ridiculous as this to help you determine if you're ready to be parents, the simple answer is, you are NOT. For the sake of your child, I beg that you give them a home with parents who will cherish them from the word go. If you selfishly decide to keep the child after a stunt like this, you're damning them to a life of complete torture and self hate.
WOW YOUR A SICK BITCH!
I find this to be very sad, but for whatever the reason you feel like others should have a voice in whether or not you give birth or have an abortion please go to and check out www.whispersfromthewomb.com When you go to the website, please know that the birthmother of the little boy that you hear could have chose to end his life through abortion but instead she selflessly made an adoption plan for that precious little boy and now hopefully his voice can help you and many others choose life for your precious child. Again please go to www.whispersfromthewomb.com. and hear their votes! Sincerely, Tina
I saw your segment on TV tonight and you said that having two miscarriages was painful and difficult. Having an abortion is like a miscarriage in that a baby dies. It is tragic and painful, as you know. So now you are considering voluntarily repeating that pain and agony? This child has the chance to live. If you are taking a poll to decide if you want to be a parent or not, the answer is easy. Have the baby and give the baby up for adoption so a family who really knows they want a baby can have one. Give this child the life he/she deserves...a family that will love him/her.
How would you feel if your parents asked the public if your life was worth keeping before you were born? Would you feel good about yourself if you read a poll on the internet asking random strangers if you should be born? Please consider your child's life and future.
I voted abort.
I don't think anyone should bring another life into this world unless they are 100% certain they want it. Also, the two of you are obese and this is bad news for a baby made by the combination of your genes.
You are carrying a healthy child. If you have the abortion you will suffer for it later. There is no "maybe" on that one.
Abortion is murder. Your unborn child feels the ambiguity of the mother's feelings and surely must be stressing out knowing that he/she has no control over what mother (with no maternal instinct that says "protect my child") does. It would have been better being on contraceptives to prevent pregnancy in the first place, rather than now umming and ahhing as to whether carry it through to birth. Indeed, you say you don't know whether you're ready for children. Methinks you're not ready for marriage either. God help your unborn child!!!
Have you considered the impact this 'poll' might have on your child should he ever find out and should you decide to keep him? It seems like you are so indifferent...when I was pregnant ( a completely unplanned pregnancy) I felt a deep connection to my unborn child and felt instinctively that I would protect him at all costs. It concerns me how you will act as parents...will you poll us when he misbehaves and ask us how you should punish him? This is very unsettling. I wish there was a 'give birth and place the child into a wonderful adoptive home' button.
i can not believe that a human being would post apoll like this! you as a mother and father have a miricle growing, if you wernt ready for parenthood you shoulda worn a condom! im 14 weeks pregnant and not once did abortion come to mind, im 25 and a lil scared of being a good muim or not, but im gunna give it my 100% you should be ashamed of wa you are doing, at 16 weeks when you plan to abort, the BABY not a fetus will be almost fully grown, how could you hear its heart beat and not want too meet this little human being? i agree with a few other comments how about adoption? there are so many ppl out there that can not have children and you are broad casting the fact you wanna kill a child? im from Australia, i dont understand how the police over there havnt hurled your asses too jail!
You already have a baby! If you did not have a baby, you would not be considering abortion. The question you are asking is: should you kill your baby or let him live. Know that every human being that is alive has a right to keep his life. No one has the right to take another's life from him except by due process of the law in the case of finding guilt of a capital crime. I am sure that your unborn child has not committed a capital offense. If you abort your child, know that you are killing an innocent human being. You are committing murder, a violation of the fifth commandment. Perhaps this does not mean anything to you now, but it will later. Ask yourself what kind of a person you want to be. Do you want to be a person who loves others and does what is good for others, or do you want to be a person who only loves yourself and does harm to others to benefit yourself? Do you want to be a selfless person or a selfish person? I hope you choose wisely. I hope you choose life!
I dont see how this is any worse than the countless number of people who have consulted clarvoiants, astrologers, psychics, tarot readers, palm readers ... etc. with such dilemus that affect themselves and others.
In fact I don't see how it's any worse than the countless number of people who pray to God, and then say it's in God's hands ... Gods Will Be Done.
I am not sure why people like you were even given a baby to make this choice. There are so many people who can't have babies and desperately want them more than anything. Obviously, you do not need a child and are not mature even to raise one because you are still immature and selfish. Being pregnant is a wonderful feeling and was one of my happiest times in my life and I felt a bond with my baby before my he was born- you obviously don't feel this. Since abortion is wrong, you should definately have the baby and give it up for adoption to someone who can't have one. Turn this disaster of a website into something good.
The decision is entirely yours obviously, but I can not believe you are prepared to leave it so late. I don't care if it is legal or not. How can you watch your baby grow and even consider doing what you are thinking. The fact that you have created an online poll is disgusting. Your child deserves so much more. Let someone deserving have your child.
Have the baby - of course! This is not your decision to be made, regardless of whether or not such a "choice" is legal. But certainly, give that baby to someone else...someone who will treasure the baby's life and not be selfish. This precious baby deserves parents who would not arbitrarily allow random strangers to participate in such a thing as this. I predict you will either selfishly abort this poor child or selfishly keep him/her. (Hence - not adoption poll option.) Questioning the sanctity of the life of your child is selfish and I think any decision you make will be selfish. If this is "real" than do what is right and have this baby and give him or her to unselfish parents. This child WILL discover what you have done...even if you are using false names and photos or whatever. What a legacy. Give this baby a chance and bless this baby with other parents. PERIOD. There is a reason you have not already been blessed with children. All of this should be used against you in a law suit and some reasonable, loving person should seek custody of this baby that you will surely *selfishly* keep, after you've already contemplated his or her destruction for nearly half a year. Disgusting. Parental material? No way.
You people are obviously in no position to have a child. Abort, please.
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I would wish you luck but there's no point.
As someone who desperately would love to have a child but has been unable to because of health issues (I've had two miscarriages in the past year), it really disturbs me that you are making a mockery of the sanctity of life. Do something selfless for once and give the child up for adoption if you don't want it.
Discovered pregnancy in September - but registered web site in May. Wake up people - this is a scam.
Imagine if you end up having the child, and they were to see this site one day... what is this world coming to? God help us.
I doubt this is anything more than a scam but if it's not, I vote to have the child and give it up for adoption because any child having you two for parents is a travesty. And I hope your child never finds out how expendable his life was to his own parents. That's just incomprehensible.
Please choose life. This brings me to tears to think that you honestly would even consider aborting this precious life just because someone voted to. If it were a tree would you even think twice about if you should save it or not? This is a living being! I hope for this child's sake this is a joke because if you do choose life which I certainly hope you will, what will you tell them when they find this blog?
Anti-Choice? What is wrong with you sicko lib assholes? Anything that doesn't fit exactly what you believe...slam and degrade. Yeah, that's tolerance. You SAY you are tolerant...but, ONLY if people fall in line and spew the party rhetoric. STFU you bunch of creeps.
I have 5 kids. I didn't want any of them initially. They all share the same common start point...born as baby boy or baby girl. But, I love them, they love me, and I don't know what I would have done without them. I DO know what I would have done if they were aborted...the same thing that I have done for the one that I DID abort. Regret it, as I will for the rest of my life. You want to kill someone, go live in China and have a girl. YOu won't have to worry....you won't have to see your baby at all. Keep having girls. In China, they're worthless. IF you are a woman, advocating so-called "choice"...think how little value you have as a gender, in China. That's gotta make you feel great, right? Think our million babies killed a year is a lot? Imagine the unwanted females killed over there every year. It's gotta be close to 10 million. Doesn't that make you feel GRAND??? Yep, it's a beautiful thing. Wonder where they throw all those babies? Grind 'em into food? Throw them in pits like the Nazis? What?
In the scheme of things it won't matter whether you have this baby or babies. It will matter to YOU, and either you will...or you won't...face God or a "higher being" or just die with nothing at all but darkness, in the end. What difference does it make? It's JUST A BABY, geez. Who cares, right? OR do you think we should care?
I care.
You both are sick.
To have a child is to have a blessed life.
You would kill your baby because...? Why? You thought a miscarriage was hard?! I have no doubt that the loss of your babies by miscarriage was very sad. Yet, you do not have to live with responsibility of the loss of your previous preganancies, since you did not personally decide to end their lives. You feel miscarriages are difficult. The agony of knowing that YOU CHOSE to end your own baby's life (if you "abort" this life) will give you a whole new meaning to the word difficult.
This is outrageous. This child would be a blessing to someone's loving home who wants a baby and would not dream of allowing an internet poll to determine whether it gets to live or die. This baby is a PERSON. Through God's grace you conceived him or her but if you can't handle the responsibility of being a parent and protector yourself, please have the baby and put it up for adoption. LIFE is sacred. This baby already has it, even now. "Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you..." (Jeremiah 1:5 NIV)
Dear god in heaven, please don't ruin the chance of life for a baby becuase you ae scared or selfish. Allow your life to be overtaken for 9 months only and then give your child a chance at life with a family who prays everyday for their own child.
You people make me fucking sick. I don't believe in abortion but clearly this child would have no fucking chance in hell with nutcases like you for parents. God help that unborn baby.
Please have the baby. If you do not immediately fall in love with him or her, there are so many couples out in the world that want to be parents but are unable to. I would take the baby to love and care for, if you would allow me to... no questions, no judging.
You are over12 weeks and out of your first trimester...the time to make a CHOICE is gone.. Now unless there is a medical reason to terminate your baby is here to stay. Within 6 weeks your baby could survive outside of your body. If you could be that caulous then you don't deserve a child... I would love to adopt him just like a million others.
I think that if you truly didn't want to have a baby at all, you (p) would have chosen sterilization. The fact that you've had failed pregnancies in the past does alter your perception about another pregnancy- the possibility of another failure is harder to take than planning to terminate. I miscarried my first pregnancy and luckily got pregnant again fairly easily, but our daughter was born with a severe heart defect that required 3 open heart surgeries before age 2. I think that if you know that your child will be born with severe health issues termination is often then kindest thing you can do for that child.
When I found out I was pregnant again (a surprise) I was very disconnected with my pregnancy and the baby because of what our first had been thru. It wasn't until after a fetal echo and thorough ultrasound that my husband and I were abe to breathe that sigh of relief and start to connect with our second baby. We were fully prepared to terminate, IF the fetus had abnormalities that could/would result in health crises for the baby. Seeing one baby go thru the HELL of her surgeries was brutal and we could not in good conscious do the same things to another child.
Try being a Mom- You don't have to be SuperMom & WonderWife & CareerWomanExtrodinaire...you just do your best at what you're doing and know that is all you can ever do. If the Mom thing doesn't work out, there are couples everywhere who want babies/children. Open adoptions are an amazing way to be involved, and not have to give up everything.
All that being said...I am Pro-Choice, and if you choose to terminate, just remember that may be the biggest regret of your life. You can give up a baby you can't deal with but you can't undo an abortion.
Best of luck in your gut-wrenching decision. I hope what ever you choose is what is right for you (p) in the long run. Peace be with you
After seeing this I don't think that you should be able to be parents!! The state should take the child away from you if you decide to keep this precious baby!! Many people out there wuld love to adopt a baby. We had to pay over $40,000 for our 3 children for IVF procdures. IF YOU DON"T WANT TO DEAL WITH POSSIBLE MISCARRAGE USE BIRTH CONTROL AND YOU WOULD NOT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THIS ANYMORE!!!! What kind of parents are you going to be if you have this child.... Don't be stupid and I hope you like for fame for this stupid issue.
If your choice is to not kill a human being, then that child should thank America, and not you for his existence in this world. Are you going to explain to him that you didn't care enough about him to make your own decision wether or not he should be alive. Cursing you is not the answer, I just pray for your child that he gets a chance to live. The way to polls are looking, he has a good shot.
Wow. What is the world coming to when selfish individuals such as yourselves put the life of a defenseless unborn baby in the hands of complete strangers? You are two fully grown adults, please act like it! You are being incredibly immature about a serious decision by hosting this site. Since I am PRO LIFE AND PROUD OF IT, I pray you keep the child, but I urge you to consider adoption. It's obvious that you two are too arrogant and selfish to give an infant the love and care it needs and deserves. And just to clarify, Life does not fit into our plans and happens as we see fit. Life happens on its own, and it is up to us to make the best of the situations we are put in and deal with them as they happen. Nothing in this life will ever fit perfectly into what we have planned out for ourselves. Please birth the miracle you have been given, and give it up for adoption.
Have the child and give it up for adoption, because you two do NOT deserve to be parents. If your lovely son/daughter grows up and realizes what you have done, they will hate you.
It's possible that you will really enjoy being a parent. I say give parenting a shot! And if you are truly not sure you are ready, why not have the baby and put it up for adoption?
I'm not sure what led you guys to leave this decision up to America, but PLEASE DO NOT ABORT. That is a human life and that decision should not be made by playing a game. As the fetus inside you continues to grow, it's brain, fingers, toes, all it's body systems develop. At 7 weeks, your baby has fingernails and toenails and can blink, and it continues to develop from there. That is not a blob of tissue that you can simply eliminate. So many individuals out there are desperately trying to have a baby and can't for whatever reason. If you don't want to parent yourselves, give the baby up for adoption and give the gift of a precious life to a waiting parent(s). Adoptions these days are open so that if you want to, you can receive pictures/mementos of your child from the adoptive parents, and even visit your child on occasion. Some birth parents are very close with their birth child and the adoptive parents. If you do not want this baby, I agree that you should not keep it and raise it, but please help to fulfill someone's dream by giving them the gift of a child.
I would not normally "vote" for abortion unless a more valid reason exists, such as in the case of a rape or if the health of the baby and/or mother is in jeopardy. That being said, I think the fact that you are putting your baby's life into other people's hands, and the way you're going about doing it, proves you are unfit to be parents. If anything, please give this baby up for adoption. If this is how we have evolved as humans, to do something like this, I am sad and disheartened. If this is a joke or an attempt to gain media or political attention, you should be ashamed...and take a few minutes to think about the meaning of your own lives.
I can't believe that two grown adults need the opinions of others to decide if they should have a family or not. Kids are great and when you are blessed with them why make a decision. The decision was made for you, you have been blessed by God with a child. You have miscarried in the past and now you have a blessing from God. It was your choice to get pregnant but now you should see this as a blessing that you can finally be parents that this pregnancy didn't end in a miscarrage that this life you created is growing each and everyday waiting for their arrival into this world.
If you don't feel ready to be parents then go to classes talk to friends. if it isn't your time to raise a child give it up for adoption and let someone else love an care for the child.
Whatever decision you make make it with your heart and take into consideration the life that you and your husband created. May God be with you in your time of need.
You have to be absolutely ready to take care of a baby if you decide to have one. There is no going back (I am a parent myself). The fact that you set up this web site means that you are NOT READY. YOU CANNOT BRING a person into this world and later regret it. You will only mess up your lives and the life of the baby.
About having a kid and then giving it up for adoption - there are plenty of kids in foster homes for people who want to adopt.
Your only choice as I see is to get an abortion. It is morally the right thing to do - for yourself and the unborn.
You should be sterilized! !!!!!
Also.... my parents had me 7 years after my sister, a mistake by all means, I am thankful they did not abort me with the reasoning that they would be in their fifties during my childhood. My dad was 37 and my mom 35 when they had me and I have the closest bond with my parents. My mother is my best friend, age is not a factor in this.
Why would you not want this baby???????? I have had 4 and each is a gift from GOD. Whether you believe in God or not this is a gift from him.
I feel sad that you would even ask this. Have the baby and give it to me. I would gladly take it and raise this child.
have the baby. because this baby can feel pain and i cannot believe that you would willingly inflict that on him simply because of an internet vote. what in the name of christ is wrong with you. this is disgusting beyond belief.
have this baby, and for the love of god, give him to a family that will love him more than life itself. it is heartbreaking to think of all the people who cannot have children. while you sit around pondering whether to murder your own.
i'm all for abortion in the early stages, if a woman sees fit. but this child is BIG and well developed. he is warm inside of you and listens to your heart beat. you sicken me more than words can explain.
Please, please don't have an abortion. All your fears and trepidations will disappear once you gaze upon the beautiful face of your child. I believe there is love for him in your hearts already - focus on that and don't be afraid to let it grow. God will give you the grace necessary to raise this child, so trust in Him. If, after he is born, it still seems too overwhelming, let this child be raised by adoptive parents who will love him. People don't realize that when a baby is aborted, it is not just the baby who is no longer to be. It is all the generations that would have come from that one person. My mother-in-law became pregnant before she was married and tried to abort her first child with a chemical cocktail. The abortion didn't happen, so she went to the doctor's to have a surgical abortion. She was prepped for surgery, but when the nurse left the room to get the doctor, she had a change of heart and left. Several months later she ended up giving birth to her firstborn son, who happens to be my husband. We have three beautiful children. None of these wonderful people would've existed if she hadn't been brave enough to leave that doctor's office. And my husband is one of the best and biggest-hearted people I have ever known. My mother-in-law thanks God every day that she didn't go through with the abortion. Your baby is not a potential human being, but a human being with potential! Also, I was 30 with a great career when my first child was born, and now I am enjoying getting ready for my son's high school graduation. If you feel your life has purpose and happiness now, it will be multiplied when your baby is born, I guarantee it. Give yourselves that chance, please.
You cannot live in the past. Regardless of what happened with your previous pregnancies you have the opportunity now to have a baby. Instead of debating on whether or not to have it you should be celebrating the gift you've been given. This little person is alive and part of you. There is never the perfect time. Once your little person is born, all your doubts will fade away. I have three little people of my own and had only planned to have two. The third was a suprise but when I held her for the first time, I couldnt imagine life without her. I believe in my heart you will feel the same. And if your not ready, there are so many people wanting a child. Please consider adoption.
I just want to tell you guys that you are the most selfish people. I just saw this on my local news, and I want to tell you ungrateful people, that I am 35 yrs old, and will NEVER BE ABLE TO HAVE ANY CHILDREN BECAUSE MY OVARIES WERE FRIED FROM A VERY YOUNG AGE BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE X-RAYING THAT WAS DONE ON ME,because i was born with a a very rare disease that I made it through , which most people to this day 35 yrs later don't make it thru. People like you make me sick. If you didn't want a baby you should have never done the deed.
I wasn't going to vote but then thought if I didn't then it could push the abortion side up and you would do that. This baby deserves to have a chance at life. If you are even considering abortion then maybe you shouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place!!! By having an abortion at that time, the baby is looking like an actual baby at that point and you have seen and heard heartbeats and to know that you stopped that how could you possibly live with yourself!? I have 4 beautiful children and my 3rd was stillborn at 34 weeks. So I have held my dead child in my arms and it is was worst thing to ever go through. There was nothing we did wrong or could have done to prevent it but I still blamed myself. But in your case it would truly be your fault how could you kill a baby!! I understand that a miscarriage does hurt but imagine what others have been through and still have other children. There are so many people out there that can't have kids and here you are doing this. You guys don't deserve this baby you are carrying. I would love to hear you explain this to your child!
i can't believe you would go through all this trouble to conceive just to then decide to have a public vote on whether or not to kill your precious wiggles. you 2 disgust me utterly. keep your legs closed and think things through before trying to have kids you disgusting pigs!!! this is totally outrageous that you would even consider having a public poll on this sensitive subject. you talk as if you love wiggles yet have an active poll to decide this childs fate. you should never be allowed to be parents as obviously you dont deserve it if your having to ask the public on their view about it. it is quite clear you will not be good parents to this beautiful child should you decide to keep it. peoples children get taken from them for lesser crimes but yours far outweighs the rest as the worst thing that could be done to an unborn child. you clearly dont care for it at all. grow the fuck up and start acting your age you disgusting pigs!
I cannot believe that you would put somebody elses life to "vote". You are both undit parents and do not deserve to have the precious baby. So many of us cannot have children and you act like it is a game. Why not just flip a coin, at least it would have been faster. At least the baby would not have grown to be as big as they were, just for their life to possibly be terminated. And what if you decide life? In 10, 15, 20+ years your child comes across this and see that you let somebody else decide their fate? Wondering why their parents could even think that they were not worth it? You are sick people.
Have your child and give it up for adoption. I would hate to know if my parents did something so sick. I would hate my parents.
Just sick
I am aware that this is an anti-choice campaign.
If you were truly considering aborting this child you would not be waiting until 2 days before the legal limit. You would've made up your mind a few days after you realized you were pregnant. If you really were attempting to leave the decision up to strangers, I would advise you to abort, as it is better to give the fetus a painless death now than subject it to a childhood under the lack of guidance of such an egregious pair of fools.
But you are not fools. You are people who want to dictate the private life choices of others. Which is far less forgivable. A fool I could love. But you people just suck.
So I'll leave you an account to pay later.
For the good of this child you should never be able to have any, and be the 2 sad and lonely losers that are alone forever. anyone asking this kind of question does not deserve children, there are so many families that would do anything for a child and you are just trying to get 15 seconds of fame. abortion is murder, the only reason for one is if you are raped, or to protect the child if they were gong to be born with a disability that will hinder them for life. or if u are in a unsafe relationship.
You people make me sick. There are so many women out there who can't get pregnant so they can't even try and have it be successful. They have a 0% chance of getting pregnant. Yoo on the other hand are pregnant. Now hopefully you make the right decision and have the baby but its life is already tainted. What are you going to do when he or she comes across this article and says mommy how come you weren't sure if you wanted me. If you weren't sure if you wanted to put yourself through a pregnancy again then take all precautions so you don't have this choice but to put a poll on the internet. Its one thing to consider between you and your husband and during that conversation i hope you two would decide to keep it but to open it up to the world is disgusting. I hope your child lives a great life and I hope that he or she is nothng like you. You people are the true meaning of disgusting.
I cant believe you guyz. I wish i was in a position to adopt that precious little one...i have had several women in my family who have been trying for years to have children but they can't and you two are taking this issue as a joke. Recently my sister rung me and confined to me about how long they have been trying to have atleast one child and that has been impossible. Am not sure why you keep getting pregnant when you know clearly that you are not interested in raising children...and maybe that's why you keep miscarriging coz GOD would not like you to punish these kids by neglecting them. This is not funny but if you and the so called partner find it funny then SHAME ON YOU. It is Gut renching to see these beautiful images of a child who will not see day and night coz your decision.I HOPE YOU WILL BE HAPPY AFTER ABORTING AND PLEASE TRY USING CONTRACEPTIVES TO PREVENT YOU GETTING PREGNANT COZ WE DONT WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU TWO AGAIN TWO MONTHS DOWN THE LINE.If you decide to have the baby,please give him/her up for adoption coz he/her is obviously not wanted.
cheers.
This makes me sick that you ppl would make this site if its even real..are you gona tell your child in 18 years that you guys made this poll?????? sick fucks
Keep the baby, Abort you two idiots!!! Dickheads
PRO-LIFE HOAX!
please give birth to this miracle. It is a gift from God and deserves to live. If you don't want to keep and love this child please give it up to parents who will love and care for this child.
It is apparent that you are growing attached to your unborn child.... yes, you have had three miscarriages, but this baby is growing healthy inside you. You have stated your love for children, so try. If the baby is growing healthy with no complications then see the pregnancy through, if something happens during the pregnancy, then take that as your sign to stop trying. If you truly feel you do not want children, then have your tubes tied, use protection and prevent yourself from being in this position again. You have become invested in this child, posting pictures, hearing it's heartbeat, if you were going to abort, why wait? Is this something you will regret 5-10 years from now? You fear of giving your child a good life, good relationship,.. well that will always be a struggle, is this an unusual thought? Are you going to counseling/therapy to address the depth of your issues regarding raising a child? I think you need professional assistance in making this decision. And you talk about being selfish, well having a child is one of the most selfless acts one will do. You will put the child above yourself daily- if you cannot do this, then at least have one unselfish act and find a family who wants a child so dearly and is unable to conceive, let them give your child a chance. I have always seen myself as pro-choice, and terminating a pregnancy is a huge decision that one will carry with them for the rest of their lives, but this has gone too far. There is no "choice" in this matter anymore.
your website makes me really sad and upset. There are people out there like me that have pcos that cannot have their own children. People like you upset me really bad cause it is selfish. I would give anything to be a mom. To complete my life. To see stuff like this saddens me. I want to be a mom and I probably wont get the chance. Adoption is expensive and other option is fertility pills. Take into consideration for other peoples feelings too. Give your child a chance to be born and live his/her life. Dont let it be about you
If you are unsure about procreating, why do you keep getting pregnant? From the article I read, it says this is your fourth pregnancy-why are you waiting until now to decide if you are ready? Pregnancy is a consequence of having sex-you chose to have sex, you have to deal with the consequences. If I chose to murder someone, the consequence is going to jail. I don't get to choose if I want to go to jail or not. Your choice is to raise your baby or
if you don't want to raise a child, give it up for adoption to someone who can and will love the baby. You are mature adults who are accountable and resposible for your actions
I think this is absolutley terrible and i am shocked! I am only 17 and i am smarter than you to know that this is crazy! You obviously have been trying to have a baby if you have had 2 miscarriages..so now God gives you one and you want to kill him/her because MAYBE it might not work out?? You have to have faith that it will work out. If you always give up on things then you will never come to an end result. I am pro-life and i do believe that God has a purpose for everything so i will pray for you and this baby! PLease make the right decision and at least if nothing else..let this baby live because he/she can not speak for themselves..which i am trying to do for him/her.
OK, for starters, Your body, your choice.
Now, I understand your fears at becoming parents. It will be hard work, and it will drive you nuts sometimes. raising children, (I have two) is not sleepless nights as many say, It is a few crappy sleep nights, now that is not to say that you might not have the one or two nights that seem to never end, you will, we all have. But ultimately, they mostly, sleep, eat and poop. They cry when they want something, and most of the time you will figure out what it is and they will stop crying. When they get a little older, they become their own little people with their own opinions of the world. And they will frustrate you at times, and you will want to scream. And you can! you can bite down on a pillow and scream. But they really make you laugh. My kids drive me bonkers, but they crack me up as well. They see the world through un-influenced eyes and they have the most amazing imaginations. They come up with jokes that are so Not funny, that you laugh twice as hard than if they had had a real punch line. They make faces you never knew a person could make, and they look like angels when they sleep. I remember looking at my 16 week ultrasound and staring at it for 10 minutes, I just could not believe that i had made another human being. I still look at my boys and am in awe of what I did. I made them. They laugh at me when I tell them that, that i made them, they are still too young to understand how I made them so they come up with their own ideas, my youngest asked me why i didn’t color his eyes the same as mine. So cute! I want you to take what you are doing very seriously. You have suffered in the past, I had a loss of my own, and I was terrified through the entire second pregnancy, fearing that I would have to go through it again. But your time has come, all those reasons that made you want to try to have a baby in the first place, before the loss, before the fear, that is what you need to remember. You have each other for support, and you now have the world watching and waiting to see what your decision will be. I just hope you make the right decision for you both.
Now in saying all of that I would like to add that, I do not see how after looking at your ultrasound pictures you could even consider aborting at this point. Especially the 3D ultrasound, It already looks like a baby. But if you ultimately decide that having a child is not for you, please, persevere through the pregnancy and give the child up for adoption.
I wish you and your family the best of luck.
:)
I have had 2 miscarriages and 3 tubal pregnancies which left me with no possible way to ever get pregnant naturally. My tubes had to be removed because they were damaged by the ectopic pregnancies. I am so heart broken to know I can't get pregnant the natural way. The only option left for my husband and I to get pregnant is to do a procedure called IVF (IN VITRO FERTILIZATION)! Who knows if that will even work. Please consider giving birth and just put the precious child up for adoption! Please! To see your story, it just breaks my heart to even think you would consider abortion after what you guys have gone through! Please consider adoption!
You people are a couple of sick individuals!
Give birth but please give it up to someone that will want it how could you do something like this and love the baby
WOW! WHAT WOULD BRING YOU TO THIS DESICION.... I DON'T KNOW. I LOST MY BABY 5 YEARS AGO TO SIDS WHICH REALLY SUCKED! YOU GUYS CAN GIVE YOUR UNBORN CHILD LIFE! I'M TOTALLY AGAINST ABORTION!!! THERE'S FAMLIES OUT THERE THAT ARE DYING FOR A CHILD! DON'T KILL A GIFT OF LIFE!!! IF YOU DON'T WANT OR ARE AFRAID OF LOOSING YOUR UNBORN CHILD AGAIN..... FIND A FAMILY TO ADOPT UR UNBORN CHILD!!!! IT SHOULDN'T EVEN AN APOTION FOR AN ABORTION!!!! IT SHOULDN'T EVEN BE LEGAL!!!! PLAESE LET YOUR BABY STILL ALIVE, DON'T MAKE YOUR UNBORN CHILD SUFFER BECAUSE YOU CAN'T MOVE ON IN LIFE!!! LET YOUR UNBORN CHILD CHANGE YOUR LIFE! LIFE IS TOO SHORT! LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!!! THIS INCLUDES YOUR UNBORN CHILD!
I chose abortion and have always regretted my decision. I was young, pressured, scared and made the wrong choice. If you don't want to keep your child I would still have your child and give them up for adoption. Don't make the selfish choice like I did because I think you will always think about it and may very well have a huge painful regret. Plus it may never happen again for you. Welcome the opportunity, the experience. If you never have the chance again you will be happy you made the right choice to give your child their life. Don't make this decision lightly as it will impact you forever. You're lucky to have this opportunity. Try to make the best decision you can. I love children and wish I would have been strong enough to face the pressure and fear and do what I should have done and had my child. I never had another chance to have a child, and am now too old. I feel terrible always for my selfish decision.
If you were not "ready" to have a child, then you should have steralized your husband or yourself. What you are doing is unbelievable - only God has the right to decide if this child is born. I hope you take a good hard look at yourselves and make a change. Pray that God forgives you for this, and that your son or daugter NEVER finds out what you did - setting up a poll, to decide if they should live or die.....
Have the baby and give it up for adoption if you don't want it - don't have your baby murdered!
Abortion is much more emotional than the modern world wants you to believe. As someone that had an abortion at a young age, I know that you carry the pain with you for life. I still cry about it sometimes and it was almost a decade ago. Also, there is a chance it could lead to infertility. I am now a mother, and even though it is hard sometimes, it is the greatest blessing and truly a miracle to watch this little baby grow into his or her own personality. There is nothing like holding your child in your arms and feeling the love coursing between you. This is not just a decision, it is a life. Please give your baby a chance!
What the hell are you thinking putting childs life up to a vote on the internet. So you had some mis-carrys now your pregnant and you are going to kill it. What the fuck is wrong with you.
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You two are quite possibly the worst human beings that ever lived. To distort the abortion debate the way you are is evil. How will you explain to your child that you left it's fate in the hands of an online vote.
What I don't understand, is you've tried to conceive. Both "planned" pregnancies ended in miscarriage. Now you have successfully conceived and suddenly are unsure of becoming a parent? Doesn't make sense. Adoption please. This poor child deserves a chance. If you do not want to be parents, at least choose adoption. For the sake of the CHILD. If you choose to have the child, but also choose adoption, please take the proper precaution so this sad situation doesn't happen again.
This is one of the saddest and weirdest things I have ever heard of. A pregnancy and the decision to carry a baby to term should be the couple's decision and does not need to be publicized and dramatic. Pete and Alisha- you need to get your acts together. That poor baby should be carried to term and should be given up for a closed adoption. I hope he/she never finds out that their life depended on a silly online vote. This is something that people won't just forget about.
I hope that you will let this baby grow to term, and during that time strongly consider adoption for this child. Using your unborn child as a publicity stunt or to make money (google ad- really?) is wrong. I am pro-choice, but this is a personal decision. Not one that you post, and not a decisionyou leave until the last legal date! If you have this baby and keep it, it will know that you thought so little of it to let strangers weigh in on its fate. I too suffered from miscarriages, and when I did become pregnant, I cherished every moment of it. Grow up and shut this site down now!
You sick bastards.
If you have that child, he/she will spend their whole life knowing that you disgusting fools put their fate up to a VOTE on the bloody internet. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
Have the Goddamn baby and put the poor thing up for adoption. If I was that child, I sure as Hell wouldn't want you as my parents. Perhaps we could let him/her choose whether or not to kill YOU?
When I first read this story on the internet I must admit I was slightly interested. The topic of abortion is still quite taboo, even though I would like to think "we" have come a long way. I guess I'm puzzled by a couple of things. The first question is why you would try so hard to conceive any or all of those babies, be devastated by your loss, and yet question yourselves and the public on whether or not you should have the baby you are currently pregnant with? I get that loss of a child is hard, so does it make it less hard if it's done by your own hand? What if you lose this baby before you get to decide? Will you try again when you're "ready"? Is this self entitlement? Do you think that you're allowed a baby only when you're ready? Perhaps this pregnancy should have been prevented had you not been "ready"?
The other question I have is why you would post your ultrasound photos on this website? And also name the baby a silly name to throw this whole thing even more off. Why put that picture out there? Why subject yourselves to even more scrutiny? Is this for a quick 15? While a life grows inside of you? At this point, this isn't an abortion, it's more than that.
You can tell that the two of you do not have children, because if you did, this website would never have come fruition. And I'm assuming that the two of you do not have children for a reason.
I am not a religious person, but God bless that poor baby.
Words fail me...this is your flesh and blood, bone of your bone, carrying your own DNA. How can you think of destroying your child puposefully when you already know the heartache of losing children through miscarriage? My heart is broken...