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"Abort. Don't listen to those who claim "Oh, you will burn in hell if you abort." It only means that most people who are pro-life are religious; therefore, their opinions are invalid. Their logic is very flawed by their brainwashed minds. Truth is, your fetus currently does not have a conscious, nor does it have any ability to think freely. All of its actions are based off reflexes and instinct. Abort while you can!"
This person, along with the creators of this website, are idiots. Based on this comment, then newborn babies, who act on reflexes and instinct during the first months of life, should be killed also. What a dumba$$. You guys disgust me - I can't believe that you would leave this up to people you have never met. I lost a baby half way through a pregnancy due to genetic defects (the baby died in-utero due to trisomy 18) so I know the devestation of losing something you love and to have you be so nonchalant about having this baby is terribly pathetic. You are a stain on the fabric of this country which gives us the freedoms to speak freely. Words can't even express how sickened I am about this website.
i myself was pregnant with twins and i lost both of them at 16wks..that is something very hard to overcome. Your sistuation life or career may be different but i assure you nobody gets pregnant just for the hell of it all things happen for a reason..and the really sad thing is that if yall do decide to keep this child one day when there older they may see this horrible web page or hear about it and all there going to think is "wow my parents had to ask the internet if i should be brought in the world or not." But yall will know what to do because it will be in your heart and im sure alisha is somewhat attached and curious about keeping the baby..its a great feeling to be pregnant. not to mention you can always give the child to someone not able to carry children because there are many ppl in this world that would love to be in your shoes. i hope all works out for yall
Même pas né, et vous parlez déjà de sa mort... Et vous, vous mourrez quand ?
Vous êtes vraiment d'ignobles et d'infâmes énergumènes. J'espère que cet enfant ne finira pas dans le congélateur!
Not even born, and you already speak of his death ... And you, when you die?
You are truly vile and despicable fanatics. I hope this child will not end in the freezer!
You people should be lined up against a wall and shot. Your fickle attitude towards life is disgusting. Two fat bastards that were picked on all their lives and now are looking for fame. You two stupid cunts will have a very special place in hell. I hope the kid is born and adopted and then you two shallow end of the gene pool morons die a very painful slow and early death.
okay folks please give life a chance
I think what you are doing speaks to the level of your character. I'd like to witness a poll in which your life was put up for a vote and see how the general public votes on this! The two of you are nothing more than attenion grabbing whores. You will get nothing from this.
Wow, I am shocked at this whole story. I am a mother of 3 beautiful girls none of them were planned, financially it was/is difficult. Have I gained weight from having children? YES, but I have gained so much more than just weight. I get to take my children to the park and listen to them sing and watch them dance. I get to kiss their boo boos and tuck them in at night, and hug them when they are sad. I can still to this day remember each of them saying MAMA. If you don't feel you can take care of this child please give him to someone who can enjoy all of these things. May god bless you and your unborn child during this difficult time.
Picture this; Jesus will be there with Our Lady behind him, with tears in their eyes and outstreched arms waiting to catch your aborted son, which was a gift to you. When a baby is aborted heaven shakes and a demon is released from hell to earth.
This is what an American visionary witnessed recently..
I think that there are so many people that would love to have a child but can't. Have this child and do the best thing for it and give it up for adoption.
You people are so stupid. Who would want to kill their own child especially after it has been inside of you for twenty weeks and you have felt it moving? You people discust me! If you didn't want to have a baby you shouldn't of had sex. They do have things to prevent pregnancy. Ever heard of condoms?
Kill it. There is already too many retards in this world. Just go adopt one of the 5 billion Chinese people.
Well if you, sir, don't have $75,000 in the bank and you, mam, don't have $75,000 in the bank. Then you can't afford this child or the $150,000 child support payments if she desides to leave you and go on MN. welfare.
I have been reading your blog. You sound like articulate, educated people. This is not a science experiment. When you have this baby, you will move from the realm of theory to real life. It's hard staying home now, and staying home with the baby will be even harder. But you will become better people for it.
In a way, it's like this. When we are children, we play all day. But when we grow up, we have to work and be responsible. Of course, working and being responsible is not all fun, but would you really rather stay a little child forever? No. There are benefits to growing up.
This baby will grow you up in all new ways. Your selfishness will go away. You will think about the whole work differently. There will be something MORE IMPORTANT to you than even your own life: this little child. I see that your mom wen with you to get flu shots. Here you are an adult, but your mom still watches over you like a guardian angel. Why doesn't she say to just do it yourself? Because of her love for you. Before you came along, I am sure she did not even miss you. But if something were to happen to you, she would cry ever day the rest of her life. That is how YOU will feel about this child. This child is not a nameless, blob, statistic. When you hold it and see you and your husband in it, you will KNOW that taking care of this baby is the most important thing in the whole world. Don't kill it. This baby has a wonderful life ahead, and SO DO YOU with this baby. It will be a tragedy if you kill this baby, but you will also lose out and you will not even know it.
Think about this: the baby isn't even here yet, and you are already posting pictures of the ultra sounds and development milestones on line. Just wait until you are posting first smile, first laugh, first steps, first "mommy" and "daddy". You love this baby more than you know.
My answer is yes, the both of you should be aborted. Oh wait. You meant, should the 2 of you have an abortion? Ah. I see now. Well, since you felt compelled to ask you have made it clear you are in no way, shape or form intellectually up to the challenge of parenting, nor are either of you logical, capable and/or responsible enough to be considered adults. This will certainly translate into raising your children to be yet additional useless wastes of oxygen. Moreover, you are and now they (children) will become, voters. Unless by that time people without a mimimum IQ and education are no longer able to cast a vote, I say nip it in the bud now, before we raise a new generation of idiots. You're welcome!
If you let the little one in and cannot raise her or him, we will be glad to adopt! We are right here in the Twin Cities. We love kids and cannot have any more ourselves...
My vote, based on experience, is what NOT to do: do NOT surrender your baby to someone else to raise. Adoption in this country is is based and maintained on major human rights violations. Google "adoption primal wound" to learn how adoption affects the child for life.
Many people who are ambivalent about becoming parents find they are happy to take on the role once their baby is born, but many do not. If you are truly this much in doubt, then get a safe legal abortion now and re-evaluate how you feel a year or more from now. It happens more than you realize; people aren't comfortable admitting it, but many abortions occur within stable marriages, because the potential parents realize that having a(nother) child at that time would not be the right thing to do.
Don't risk your health with pregnancy unless you're certain you want to raise the child in the end. Save your health in that case, and have the abortion now.
Good luck.
Imagine the kid when he knows that birth was decided like that!
This is not a game idiots !!
A child is always a blessing, even if the timing isn't what we'd hoped it would be. My first child (I have five now) was a complete surprise- I had just graduated college the month before and was preparing to go to law school. I gave it all up for the sake of my baby and never, ever looked back with regret once I looked into her beautiful brown eyes. It's hard to fathom until you hold your own child in your hands, but nothing in this world will ever be more important or worth more to you than your child- no matter how we might think right now. I have also experienced the pain of miscarriage (in fact, I would be giving birth next week if I had not had a miscarriage in the spring), and it does make one reluctant to try again, but life is always worth the risk of loss. The joy of a baby surpasses all other joys, all other loves. People who knew me when I was younger are shocked that I have any children, much less five, but being a parent changes you profoundly, for the better. You are already parents of a precious baby who is completely dependent on you and is living in what ought to be the safest place in the world for a baby- in his loving mother. I hope you won't betray your child's trust. Give this baby a chance to see the world and you will be so blessed that you did!
obviously, this is a stunt. ..maybe god grant you mercy. at least give the chil...
I wonder why you went through trying to get pregnant twice before and had miscarriages with both and then decided when you get pregnant again that you are not sure whether you should have it or not. Another question why did you wait so long to make a decision? In my opinion your decision came when you decided to have sex knowing you could possibly make a baby. It is rather disturbing that you posted this site to decide one way or the other. That being said your child did not ask to be created, but it was, so if you are not up to raising him/her then please put him/her up for adoption, give the baby a chance at life with a family who will love and cherish them forever. Do you have any idea what that baby will go through should you decide to have an abortion? Please, if you are a person of faith please pray, and ask God to help you with your concerns of selfishness and doubt. Please give God a chance to show you why your child should live and be with parents who truly desire to raise him/or her and call them their own.
I'm adamantly pro-choice and I think this whole thing is ridiculous. Having an abortion is something that is very personal for a woman or a couple, it shouldn't be broadcast on the internet as to whether or not it happens because people think it should. It's obvious by the attention, the amount of ultrasounds and everything else that you have an interest in the child, then why not keep it rather than being soulless spectacles putting themselves on display for the world's attention. On top of the fact that it's not going to be your choosing if you have one, rather following the will of the masses, I say have the damn kid. I just hope you don't have a poll to decide whether or not you're going to feed it or let it starve in the future because you can't decide on your own later.
At what point in this kid's life do you tell it that it's existence is due to a bunch of knucle dragging Christers
Please choose life, Alisha and Pete. If you do not have the resources, I will adopt your baby.
Please pray on this as I will be praying that you will feel the love of your unborn baby growing in your womb †
After reading the entirety of this blog. I would like to say it does not sound like you want to abort this baby. You are interested in his/her gender. You already are considering "Wiggles" as family by naming him/her. I don't know you two, but wish you the best of luck with your baby. I tried to conceive for 3 years and ended up the fertility route and I also had a subchorionic hemmorage, that frightened me. I also had a risky pregnancy with bleeding all the way through ending in a small 4 pound baby boy. He is the result of my smiles and I cannot imagine being without him everyday. You seem to already love this child. I hope you make the decision, your heart desires, which sounds like to be a mommy. It hurts to have miscarriages and lose what you expect to be apart of your everyday lives. Possibly you are trying to protect your heart by protending that wiggles wont make it to birth but looking at your ultrasounds, looks like you will be able to give birth to a healthy baby. My sincere best wishes to your developing family. :)
I'm not sure if I hope this website is a hoax, or real. I guess I hope it's a hoax. If not, and you end up keeping the child, I know you'll look at this child and wonder at your repugnant indifference toward his life. If you do kill this child, it will be the result of what is likely a yuppie, ho-hum approach to anything of eternal consequence. This is not a mere "political" issue.
If you carry this child to term, and you still feel ho-hum about him, please contact me and we can draw up adoption papers. If you choose to kill, please contact me and we will draw up adoption papers and I wil do what it takes to shepherd this child.
Point made. I believe you guys are trying to bring attention to how cruel and inhuman it is to abort an unborn baby. I hope that maybe some hearts have been changed, that is where it has to start if abortion is going to end.
I voted that you should give birth. At the same time it is your deccsion about what you do and relying on this type of a poll I find to be crass and less than respectful of the miracle of birth.
My wife and I would glady adopt your child. Every child is a blessing, if you can't see that we'll give your child a loving home
This site makes me sick!!!! I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome which makes it next to impossible to get pregnant. By the grace of god my husband and I were fortunate enough to have a little boy whom we love!!! So much in fact that I am putting myself through HELL to give him the gift of a sibling! My husband and I were both only children and we don't want our son to be alone in this world! It breaks my heart when he tells me "I want a baby sister" and I still have not been able to do this for him! In the last 3 months my husband and I have spent several thousand dollars in fertility tests, and treatments, to try and get me to ovulate. In those 3 months I've only ovulated ONCE and did not get pregnant. I cried! Then I see a sitet like this that leaves their child's fate to the hands of the internet public, and it makes me want to cry all over again!
Please! For all the couples out there who struggle with infertility... Have this baby and give it to a family who will appreciate him/her! Because it is obvious to me that you do not appreciate this child. The moment I got pregnant with my son I loved him. I love him even more each day. If you don't feel this way about your child, then you don't need to keep him/her. Someone will love that child, even if it's not you! Please please please give him/her to a loving home!!!!!
I just want to say that I am prochoice, but i feel that posting a poll online is kind of ridiculous and disgusting. I under stand that having an abortion is an important decision, but it is a decision that you should make yourself. You are leaving the life of your child in the hands of strangers! You are well into your second trimester now your baby has bones, ears, eyes, a face! If abortion were something you wanted you should have done it as soon as possible like within the first 8 weeks.
FROM WHAT I CAN TELL YOU GUYS HAVE ALREADY LOST A BABY,RIGHT? IF SO,WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU NOT WANT THIS CHILD?? PLEASE HAVE THIS BABY I PROMISE IT WILL BE THE BEST THING YOU WILL EVER DO WITH YOUR LIFE!!!
I did not read your blog, but I did read some of the other comments. Don't worry about being too selfish -- the baby will fix that, and you will mature in a LOT of ways. ;) If you are selfish, don't worry about neglecting the baby, worry more about spoiling it, becuase you will be selfish FOR the baby they way are selfish for you right now. You will get only the best of everything for your baby, and you are thinking about killing it? Until it gets here, you have no idea how fiercely you will protect and do anything for this child.
Please watch these two youtubes, then decide: "Can I Live? Nick Cannon" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcW738wXoHk and "Happy Birthday - Flidsyde" http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=1480272919618&comments#!/video/video.php?v=1480259359279&comments
I have two adopted boys. My oldest boy was born to a couple that had just gotten out of prison and had a "reunion" that resulted in her getting pregnant. His birth mother decided to place him with a childless couple; my wife and I. That boy, now 13 years old, is part of our heart and soul. If I imagine that his birth mother had aborted him, it is just too sad to think about. I think of the countless good (and bad) events in our lives together and would not want to have missed any of them. Tee-Ball, his dancing in front of our church when he was about 6 or 7 (standing ovation!), him talking about his first girlfriend, and countless more.
If his birth mother had exercised her choice, those 13 years would have disappeared and my life would have been far different, perhaps permanently childless.
Give your baby a chance for a lifetime of experiences (and his/her own children), and give some childless woman a chance to have a child, as my son's birth mother did. What is a few months of inconvenience compared to the lifetime that this child and his/her adopted mother could have? Abortion does not just end the life of one child, it prevents the potential existence of hundreds of thousands of his/her descendants as well.
Love your baby.
Ted
Le sage n'a pas besoin de demander, mais l'idiot demande en vain.
Pete and Alisha, please carry this unborn young man to full term and put up for ADOPTION. I used to be pro-choice but now know that you will regret aborting your baby all the days of your life. Everytime you hear a childs laughter and see a young boy cry mommy and run into her arms it will be like a dagger piercing your heart. Please allow another family to adopt and raise this young man in a home where he will have stability. If you do not want children then take corrective action after this young man is born so that you wont' have to be forced with another decision like this again.
If you take an honest look around, you'll notice we're in almost no danger of running out of humans.
I only hope you actually got pregnant so to get the vote going for birth and you abort anyway.
We get laughs and one less mouth to feed. A double win.
This is more disgusting than those who just have an abortion outright. abortion is sick and dispicable and one day you will be judged!
Wow, really, this seems very strange. I'm all about life of every kind, plants, animals, bugs, but especially people. Why ask the internet to tell you whether or not to have an abortion? Even by the choice standards, it doesn't follow. Pro-choice is about your choice, right? It is not about mob mentality or the majority rules.
Pro-choice is the ultimate in individualistic thinking,it is about our independence from the moral norms that are so suffocating and legalistic. But when you throw off the fetters of the moral truth in the name of independence and individuality and then put on the golden bracelets and silver shackles of mob mentality, are you living in freedom are you exercising choice?
Reading through your posts, you seem lucid and understanding, so I bring this question up for you to ponder because regardless of what the vote says and how you might justify the choice, you are ultimately responsible and I am ultimately responsible for the choice that you lay at the hands of the many. Should we then buy in to the lie of independence, when co-dependence seems the more trusted way, when the internet seems to have more sway, when we forget that people are people and instead treat them as though they are trash no matter where we sit on the Choice (Abortion) v. Life (Adoption) divide.
If this is political and meant to make a point, I think that the point this study makes is this, you will always find people who disagree with you and people who agree with you, but not everyone has your or their best interests at heart. Discern and judge between the good reports and the bad and choose based upon the best information possible. Good luck, Pete and Alisha, and may you be blessed by the God of the universe that holds even your "Wiggles" in the palm of His hand.
I am a mom. I did not want to have children, but my husband wanted them. I am saying I am not the "baby crazy" type but I had them anyway. Now my two kids are grown. I can't imagine life without them. If something happened to them, it would devastate me. I know you don't know that little person inside of you yet, but once you do, you will discover that you love that person more than life itself.
The first time I held my baby, it was like holding myself as an infant. In my eyes holding your OWN baby is different than holding other babies. You see YOUR features, and you want to do for your baby everything that was not done for you. You want to give them a good childhood, a good education and help them to be the best they can be. Right now it is just an anonymous kicking lump inside of you, but when you meet this baby, it will be different.
There was a time that you did not know your husband. I am sure you did okay. You lived your life and he lived his. But then you met him and you started a new life with him. If something were to happen to him, you would be devastated. It is the same for your baby. You have no idea right now how much you will love this person. If you spare it's life, you will cry at the thought that you even considered killing it.
I don't believe that a baby is part of the woman's body. Once the egg and sperm meet, that person has a completely unique DNA. I did not learn that in a church, but in biology class.
Even if you somehow decide that you are not able to care for this baby, becuase they are a lot of work, at least put it up for adoption so someone else can. I met a young woman who gave her baby up for adoption, and I asked how she felt about it. She said, "Everybody won: the baby has a life with people who love it, a couple who wanted children now have one, and I can go back to school".
Please let this baby live. You could not kill a puppy or a kitten, and this baby is so much more precious. When you hold this baby and look at it's little face, you will have more love fill your heart than you knew you were capable of having.
MURDERERS, i think you are sick, to make a mockery of this innocent little life, you disgust me, just look at the little scan pictures of this thing that is moving and growing inside you, how can you do this without feeling any guilt at all, and even think this is ok, why didnt you use contraception if you were not even considering having a family, i think you really should adopt, and i hope this child never meets you or finds out what you have done, just shows that career minded people never are good parents, if your not sure then adopt, cunts!!
How about you add one more alternative that I'm sure many of the 80% of the majority would vote for:
"Should I be sterilized so that no child ever has to be raised by such obviously disturbed parents?"
I think you two should be aborted - after you have the child - you are awful people for doing this. When you keep this baby and it's born - think of how he/she will feel when they find out you did this! I hope you burn in hell
Give birth and then give the baby up for adoption! If your not ready to be parents then you need to use some SERIOUS birth control, or get your tubes tied!
It is disgusting that your allowing other people decide whether or not you should commit murder!
So give the baby to a family that cant have a child, and save yourself the pain of knowing you killed an innocent baby!
PLEASE GIVE HIM OR HER UP FOR ADOPTION! And be more careful!
This is NUTS...an obvious plea for attention. You have caused just what you hoped for...lots and lots of attention. Just think about what your child will think when they grow up knowing that you put their life up for a vote. The truth IS: you should have the baby. Then when you do, give it to a couple who will love and cherish them, without putting their value up for a vote (by strangers)!
I just want to hold you right now and show you that you're strong enough to make up your own mind.. Whatever your decision, Please don't rely on a multitude of strangers to dictate your actions in this. Please.
Hello. Hateful comments and judgemental statements are never the way to treat someone. You two, just like your baby, are human beings with dignity, and should be treated with reverence. I know you may never read this comment, and I am unsure as to whether this poll is a farce, but please know that there are many prayers being said for you three. Please know that this 'choice' to abort or not is not a matter of 'preventing' or 'allowing' life, but of ENDING a life. I am touched to see many people willing to adopt, as I can assure you I would gladly offer as well, but I also believe God has given YOU the graces to raise this child. You simply have to tap into them. God does not give you anything you 'can't handle', including a child.
Please pray about this. Please realize you are not alone. Please save a life. You three are loved very much by God. Don't forget that.
Agnus Dei, miserere nobis.
Selfish is as selfish does.... and that goes for all of you atheist over-populationists out there (coming from an agnostic because I will not pretend to know better). The world is not all about you. Get over yourselves. If the world sucks so much... take yourselves out BUT don't do it at his expense. Then we can really spend our "it gets better" energies on people who it really will get better for like this little boy whose life hangs in the balance of IDIOTS (and college educated does not preclude you from being a COMPLETE MORON!). At the very least take responsibility for your actions. YOU CHOSE to get pregnant.... so you should be responsible for this new life. OK life or no life... WHO ARE WE TO DECIDE? We don't know- and anyone that says otherwise is ignorant. Therefor err on the side of sanity and choose life.
Give birth. If you don't want this child, contact me. I'll HAPPILY adopt this child.
I voted to keep the baby ... seeing the pictures of your ultrasound really confirmed it for me as it seems so callous to make a life or death decision for someone else without any input from them. I hope you will keep updating the site after you make the decision. And again, I hope the baby lives!
I don't understand what this all about, this shouldn't even be an issue. Abortion is something you do only if you need to and I don't see any reason here to have an abortion. We must remember, abortion is ONLY something you do if you have to, not because you want to. It's up to us to decide when someone needs to or not.
Wow, this is amazing. I've not read every comment nor all you've posted about your pregnancy (only because there's so much). I DID vote for GIVE BIRTH. It sounds as if you and Baby Wiggles are doing fine. With such careful monitoring and medical support I'm believing you'll be having a healthy baby. I also am totally pro choice! And I'm adopted. A woman needs to have an option to terminate a pregnancy. There are circumstances beyond our control -- birth control fails, a man rapes us, etc. Abortion is very serious. I believe very few women have an abortion without agonizing over their decision.
The life has already begun...you shouldn't end it. however, being in the field of child welfare, i seriously recommend you give this living person up for adoption. you have clearly demonstrated that neither of you are not of the frame of mind to take on the challenges of raising a child. you are already showing the potential for neglect and possibly even abuse. I also lament that you would wait so long and possibly go through with an abortion when the child is so far along. what trauma to put your child and your own body through.
Wow... had never seen such a disgusting thing in my life. You guys dont have the right to kill a baby and even less to ask others decide for you. I really wish you have the baby... but wouldn't like to be that baby and have you us my parents. The world doesn't deserve people like you.
http://www.lifechain.net/ for Your inspiration.
Please dont kill!
My cousin gave birth at just 19 weeks and her baby survived and is a perfectly healthy toddler now. This just shows that at 20 weeks a baby is a fully developed human being. You are horrible and vile people just think of the excruciating pain that child will go through if you abort at this stage.
Have the baby and put him up for adoption so a deserving loving couple can have a family they can't have naturally like you. pregnancy is a gift not a right.
Please follow your hearts and don't listen to this poll, or people who know nothing about you or your lives. You seem to care deeply for this thing growing inside of you. You've even given it a nickname! I found your blog very touching.
I am in tears after reading your story and posts. When I think about my new niece and nephew and how they have affected my life in so many wonderful ways I just can't picture my life without them. I have given speaches against abortion and I have a loss for words for the first time in my life. I am appauled that you would put your baby's life in the hands of strangers and the idea of having an abortion just about makes me puke. My sister has had four miscarriages before she had be beautiful bundle of joy niece. The last baby my sister lost was at five months! And when she talks about having to go into the doctor to have her baby removed from her body, they pretty much give you an abortion. The details of her story makes my hair stand straight up and she still crys over the sitution to this day. She had carried this beautiful baby for five months and now it was gone. I am very diappointed in the world and some comments actually saying its okay to have an abortion if you feel its right. Its never right to end a life that has not even had a chance yet. And waiting to the last moment that you could have an abortion just makes me sick! I am not going to sit here and call you names or anything of that sort but we are HUMAN beings. People are dying because of cancer, and other diseases, I would like for you to think about eachother, if you lost one another you would be devistated. Well give this baby a chance to feel and live life and after reading your story I would hope if you do decide to keep this baby you give it up to a loving family that wants him or her. I voted for the life of this baby and I am more than happy that I did. You may need to seek some counseling soon, I have no idea where your thoughts or mind set comes from and you need help.
I think if you believe you are too selfish to have a child you are probably right and you should consider giving birth and giving the baby to somebody who is not quite so selfish and wants to share their life with a child. I'll say I always thought I would not be a good parent and did not know if I had the capacity to love another human being as much as I loved my husband and did not know if I had enough love in my heart, it turns out that I did and I do and the two people we brought into this world are my greatest joy (AND SOMETIMES MY GREATEST SORROW). i will NEVER regret having them. They are now 22 and 21 and we have our first grandchild. I am 43 and grandpa is 46 he LOVES having the grandbaby as much if not more than his own girls.
I think this website and what you are doing is absolutely HORRIFYING!!!!!! At this point in your pregnancy, if you choose abortion you are killing a small baby. An abortion at this point makes you no better than someone that would kill their child. I think this child should be born and given to someone with more brains and compassion than you obviously have to raise him. You two obviously have some serious mental issues that you need to have addressed. If you don't value this baby's life right now, then I don't see how you will ever value this child's life. You are unfit to be parents in my opinion.
My take on it is that this is just a way for 2 people who are facing a difficult decision, to gauge what others in the same shoes might think/do. It's not an easy spot to be in. I have 3 children, and my initial reaction to finding out I was pregnant with the third was to have an abortion and pretend it never happened, because I was afraid. Even having 2 other well-adjusted, happy, smart children (who were 11 and 5 at the time) it was still terrifying for me to have to face. In the end I sucked it up and the father and I chose together. When we started talking, we realized the only choice was truly to keep the baby, and that is what we did. Later we married and now live happily ever after. The third baby is now 2 years old, and is a joyous wonder in our lives. Every day we are amazed to watch him grow and learn, even though I'd done it before. Every time he says "mommy hug!" I remember the place I was in when I first found out I was pregnant, and I'm grateful for the choice we made. If you're had miscarriages in the past, I think you already know you are ready for a baby. But no one else can make that call. I do understand the confusion and the difficulty that comes in having a decision such as this hanging over your heads. Perhaps the prior miscarriages were just your baby's way of telling you they weren't ready to be your child. This time, he/she is ready, giving him/her that chance is the best thing to do.
YOUR BLOODY SICK!!! ALL BECAUSE UR NOT READY FOR A CHILD?? I WAS 17 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT FIRST AND I KNOW I WAS A MINOR BUT I WAS READY, SADDLY I MISSCARRIED THEN GOT PREGNANT AGAIN AT 18 ON MY SON BUT HE DIED BECAUSE HE WAS BORN EARLY, AND NOW 3 YEARS DOWN THE LINE I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL, PEOPLE WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR A BABY BUT UR THINKING OF KILL UR OWN BABY BECAUSE OF YOUR SELFISHNESS?, WHY NOT HAVE THE BABY AND GIVE IT TO SOMEONE THAT WILL LOVE IT AND CARE FOR IT!!! U SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF UR SELFS!!! U NAME UR BABY WRIGGLER.... SO U KNOW ITS A HUMAN BEING, WITH A BEATING HEART!!!! A LIFE IS A LIFE NOMATER IF ITS BORN OR NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!
IF YOU DO GO AHEAD TO HAVE THE BABY I HOPE THAT THEY TAKE THE BABY OFF YOU AND STERALIZE U!!!! IF U WASNT READY WHY GET PREGNANT?? U SAID TO THE NEWS PAPER U MISSCARRIED TWICE, AND ONE WAS A LATE MISSCARRAGE SO SURLY YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO LOSE A CHILD BUT THEN U GO AND WANT TO KILL THIS ONE??
I FEEL SO SORRY FOR THE BABY, I REALLY REALLY DO, IF U GO AHEAD WITH THE ABORTION I HOPE IT HAUNTS U FOR THE REST OF UR LIFE
I hope that you give birth. You are married and healthy and have sufficient wealth to afford a child. I know two women who had abortions many years ago, and both of them feel great sadness about their respective decisions to this day. This is something that you will never forget. I fathered an unplanned child twelve years ago. Please believe me when I tell you that you will be so happy that you did not have an abortion every day as you watch your child grow up.
I think that the problem is to choose between keeping him or not. You can give birth and then give him to total strangers that will love him, or not, but who want him. He can be dead to you if you like it this way.
But better, you should stop this poll and decide by yourselves. You shall not put the blame of an abortion or of an unhappy life with that child on the shoulders of the world! I forbid it! As far as i am concerned this is just an experiment, a way to flame the hearts of some or of other, or you are simply cowards. This being said, I will forget that you exist. If others decide for you, others will exist instead of you, now and forever!
I think abortion is kewl because without it children would suffer. And, when my sister had one it was totally painless, plus only breathing things feel pain and a baby only breathes when it exits the vagina.
Ten a tu bebe...es un regalo que Dios te da...no lo pierdas...
Yo he perdido a 2 bebes...y ahora ya es muy tarde para tener un bebe...y te juro que lo que mas le pediria a la vida o a Dios es tener un bebe...
Si no lo quieres damelo...yo te lo cuido...con mucho amor ....
Bueno, a mi principalmente no me gusta la idea, adema va contra la ley de Dios. Es mas si no quieren tener bebes
para que diablos se embarazo esa mujer, es parte de su irresponsabilidad paternal y maternal habiendo un monton de preservativos, para que ahora pongan en dilema el nacimiento de su bebe que culpa tiene acaso el es culpable como uds. imaginarse que se van a arrancar a un ser que forma parte de uds. por Dios uds. no se quieren Uds. y a su bebe.Sin embargo hay personas que quieren tener hijos y no pueden; tener a eses bebe seria genial y si no quieren criarlo regarlo seria estupendo y abortar no no para nada. Personas mal acabadas de cerebro como uds. solo piensan hacer tales cosas. Un bebe es un angel la cual Uds. estarian bendecidos, con el uds. llegarian a la plenitud de la familia perfecta, piensen en que serian felices con el y no tendrian resentimientos con uds mismos. hay veces despues que se hace algo asi despues se arrepiente. Por Dios que pasa con este mundo y en este mundo............Por favor no lo hagan Uds. necesitaran en algun momento de ese niño(a). no viviran jovenes toda la vida............
You both make me sick!! Too bad your parents didn't get an abortion with you...Don't you realize how disgusting you look? I say you have the baby and then give it up so then he/she never has to know what pieces of shit they have for parents. I hope IF you do have it, the law steps in and takes the baby from you. You obviously have no regard for this baby. Maybe you should have listened to those two miscarriages and got your tubes tied. You don't deserve the experience of being parents. If there are such places as heaven and hell I hope you both like the heat. You stupid idiots!
No one can tell you what to do on this even if you want them to do so. The decision should not be taken lightly and none of the options are good - you have to decide within yourselves what the best option is for you. Whatever decision you make I hop you find peace with it.
Everyone seems horrified that you would setup this website. On the contrary, I think it's an interesting idea. I seriously doubt that you care what the results of the poll are. Your motives remain unclear.
However, it's interesting to note that 80% of voters object to the abortion. But when it comes to the law, they want everyone to have the right to murder an unborn child.
Perhaps you should advocate for extending abortion laws until 10 days after the child is born. After all, "out of sight, out of mind" - you don't know if you'll really like the kid and it's still as dependent as it was in the womb, so why not have the right to euthanize him/her? Maybe I'll start a poll asking whether people agree.
If you decide to have the child, you might want to keep a copy of your website and all these comments to show him/her when he/she comes of age. That's a frightening thought - realizing that your parents actually considered murdering you before you were born. That you weren't loved until you showed up in the flesh.
Good luck with your project. I hope it's been a learning experience for you. As for the fetus, perhaps an auction would be more appropriate - "Fetus in utero for sale - unwanted and cheap".
How would you feel if we started voting on YOUR right to life or die. I hope that this baby grows up healthy and loved and not with you, and for him/her to never find out what you have done!! you both do not deserve to be parents and should be feeling nothing but utter shame!!!! i think the world is utterly disgusted in you and bloody quite right to! wankers
Putting this kind of decision on the internet for strangers to decide proves to me that you aren't intelligent enough to make your own decision and are obviously publicity hounds and attention whores. Therefore, you should not procreate under any circumstances. Don't bring a baby into this circus, it's not fair to the baby and it's not fair to the society who will eventually be responsible for supporting the baby when the reality show producers fail to come through with the big contract.
Every part of me wants to go off on you, telling you how selfish and disgusting you are, but honestly that's not who I am. What I WILL tell you is that you being completely rude and selfish by not thinking FIRST of the child you created. You made love, which in turn caused the blessing of a little child, a child like ssssooo many in this world long to hold and never get the opportunity to. A child that is a bundle of love and hope. A child that you created, and now you want to destroy. If you want to take this beautiful blessing and have the Dr put a blender inside you to scramble it, rip it out, and destroy it, you truly are the most disgusting selfish people I've ever heard of. I would not suggest you keep this child at this point either. After posting this, not only will your child know what you have posted, but will have ill-feelings towards you for its entire life, if it stays with you knowing that it was not wanted by its own flesh and blood. Babies are suppossed to be loved and cherished, not have their very existance polled about.
I am a catholic, and i dont beleive in abortion unless the mothers or childs life is in danger. To be honest, i understand you have a good marriage and careers, but to decide if your going to have a baby or not by letting strangers vote i would have to say your clearly not mature enough to care for a child. Thousands of people suffer from fertility problems and would love to adopt a newborn baby, children are the future, and they are special, so if you cant care for him, give birth and give him to a nice family.
As you know from previous miscarriages, actually carrying a baby to full term is not as easy as anyone would think. I am sure you two have been through much heartache with your difficulties, but understand there is a higher power that is allowing your baby to continue developing and if it is his will you will give birth to this child.
I have a very dear and powerful saying I love to share with people experiencing difficulty with choices and planning in their lives, I hope it helps provide a new perspective for the 3 of you:
If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans.
I will be praying for your family and I know you will make the right decision whatever you feel it is, remember, it is not any humans place to judge you actions here on earth, your actions will be judged by a higher power and will last for eternity.
This is all a hoax!! READ THIS: http://moderateleft.com/?p=6598
Let the kid live but you should die...the world doesnt need idiots like you. The child is already alive, and if you dont want a kid? Well use a condom or a different method jerks!
Pete and Alisha,
My heart goes out to you for the children you have lost. Having experienced that, I know how incredibly hard it can be. It isn;t something you "Just get over". I had the chance of having children with potential genetic defects. but i've always wanted children, and it was worth it. I am lucky now to have to healthy happy children. One of whom was born 1 month before I turned 30 and my husband turned 31. My 2 children are 5 years apart. The child I lost was in between the 2. Both have recently been diagnosed with migraines, which is devistating to me. But they love life, and are happy to be alive. They have been such a miracle to me.
If God gives you a miracle, please accept it. I am pleased to see the overwhelming support for allowing this baby to live, but the fact that 1/5 of all voters don't care if you destroy what could be such an incredibly joy in your life, is saddening.
I also beg you to consider adoption if you don't think that you will be able deal with a child, with or without possible serious ailments. i can't have anymore children myself. I've been told that I would most likely be dead before knowing that I was pregnant. I, and so many other people that I know of have so much love to give. and there are adoptions where you can even be included in the baby's life if you want, or you don't ever have to know that child. I beg you to PLEASE consider that before you consider abortion.
I know that you have been through a whole lot, and that this can seem really overwhelming. Please, let your circle of friends who are able, help you get through the hard parts, and Keep the Faith.
I wish you the very best of Luck.
Raych
(Raychmb@aol.com)
First I hope that this site is only sick joke of somebody, or it is created to see how people will respond.I hope so that this crazy people do not egzist . You are sick, you need help and you need it fast. If this baby come to this world it should be taken from you. Milions of couples all over the world can not have children and they will give everything to have one , and you idiots is making a joke of this. Why you didnt make this site to ask should you f... without protection. this fetus y is 20 weeks old!!! what were you waiting , what were you thinging IDIOTS.
You guys are absolutely SICK and Wrong for considering this. As I drove by last night and saw the news truck I thought this could have been about the rash of break ins in the neighborhood. BUT OMG to find out that you are doing this. It took me YEARS to get pregnant and yes MISCARRIAGES happened along the way but that is gods way of saying that something is not right. I can not believe that I live close to people like this and yes I know that there are sick people in this world. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. Crap deliever it to my front door step and I will figure out a way to give it a warm healthy home. My 3 boys would love it. You guys don't dexerve a baby.You may have a nice looking house but that doesn't mean you are nice people. I hope all the neighbors see thi and think differently of you and that you move to a different state or country. And let alone to even think that you are getting paid for every hit on this website is even more SICK. I hope you are embarrassed or ashamed of yourselves. . I agree with Carmen THOU SHALT NOT KILL>
I am 22 yrs old. and I was adopted at the age of 15 months. My adoptive parents had four miscarriages before adopting me. It was hard for my parents, but I am thankful for both my adoptive parents and birth-mother. I would encourage you to keep the child. Over 143 million children around the globe are left as orphans. Even if you have another miscarriage, you could adopt a child, then.
Please, if you do not want to have the baby, I would adopt him/her from you. I have two adopted boys and I live in the Minneapolis area. I have a PhD and have a great job. Please consider me. I want to help you.
I am just so sad after reading your blog that I don't even know what to say. Just the very thought that you would consider murduring your precious healthy baby is so disturbing that I can't even hardly type this message from the overwhelming sadness and pain that you have created inside of me. Please do not forget that all life is precious and that a ton of people would do anything to have a child and suffer from a whole host of infertility problems. I myself was one of them.
I cannot imagine that your poll is serious. I mean, serious in the sense that you would really speak about your child like that, and show their first ultrasonic pictures to the whole world. Imagine - if the parents decided not to abort, they would have to tell their child about this poll - "You see, Mom and Dad were not sure whether it woud be good for them to keep you, so they asked other people on the internet." No chance.
I strongly suspect that you do this as part of an anti-abortion campaign. A quite good anti-abortion campaign, I have to say. Because it shows in a new way the absurdity of the values of our time. Because it is true. If a mother can dispose of her child, why should she not ask other people what to do? If abortion is a right, why should such right be exercised in a hiding place and be affected by shame and guilt? I imagine the situation above, where these imaginary parents would tell their child about the poll, and I say, "no chance". But this situation is reality. So many parents could tell their child that the only thought they had the first time they heard of them was "shit!". This is the harsh reality of our civilisation of death.
Be careful. You will trigger reactions of anger of hatred. The beast never likes to be unmasked.
hey ..!!! would you like that your mom had done this poll about your life?
how would you feel? happy?? u suck.!
El sem hiszem, hogy ilyen létezik! Mintha valami akciós ruhán gondolkodnának, hogy meg vegye vagy sem. Undorító és gusztustalan! Természetes, hogy a gyermeknek meg kell születnie és a lehető leghamarabb el kell venni a szüleitől. Csodálkozom, hogy engedik működni a hazájában ezt a honlapot. Már rég megszüntettem volna. Ennyi voltam. Hungary
When a girl is pregnant, the baby and the mom are one. when you have an abortion, you kill the baby and the mom will never be the same again. Have the baby!
I think you should let the baby decide!
For this, you will have to give birth, teach him, and then let him choose, in the same way that you have to choose today...
If he will choose to take his own life, at leas it will be his decision.
By the way, there is no need for any votes to tell you what you have to do. You already have the right answer in you. Just seek and follow it.
You're both absolutely disgusting...........you should have the baby but then it should be taken off you and given to two decent parents who deserve it and would look after it...........if you do have the baby imagine what it'll think in years to come when you put up this sick sick poll.......you are filth and scum
Two stupid American pigs, you should have been aborted!!!
# First planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Jan. ’10 at 16 wks
# Second planned pregnancy ended in miscarriage in Apr. ’10 at 5 wks
Oh I get it now. LOL you guys just did this to show support, you wasn't ever going to abort the child. You know the pain of wanting a child but not being able to have it. I couldn't see even one logical reason why you would want to kill this baby.
The Jokes up, this is just a pr stunt ... lol
I cant believe that you vile disgusting people have set up a voting pole for people to decide whether or not you keep your baby.
Surely you's must have some sort of mental issues.
The fact you allowed yourself to fall pregnant in the first place is laughable, if your such a selfish bitch you should have took precautions, you have a life inside of you, he or she wasnt asked to be conceived. i have voted to have the baby but really neither of you deserve a baby, you's really make me sick... Is this all for 15mins of fame??? Get your photo in the paper and get some money for selling your story??? you's should be ashamed of yourself and the baby deserves better parents...
While all things are possible, not all things are profitable.
I only scanned your blog site, and saw a medical comment about a high chance of miscarriage. Other than that, I did not see a medical excuse for having an abortion.
I find it amusing that the pro-abortion people are horrified of your poll. Who is worse, the lady who wants an abortion because she doesn't want to get fat, or someone who asks the world what they think? If someone is pro-abortion without limits, they have to accept the fact that some people will be shallow in their decision making, and they should not be horrified by it.
With rights, come responsibility. You have the right to have sex. When that leads to a baby (whether wanted or not), you have a responsibility to the baby. You do not have to be parents. Adoption is an option.
What right do you have to decide who lives or dies? You may not believe that the fetus inside you is a baby with basic human rights, and thus you do not feel that you are playing God. You are trying to decide whether to abort at 20 weeks. In 2007, a baby delivered at 22 weeks survived. According to the March of Dimes, at 23 weeks, the survival rate is 17%, and at 25 weeks it reaches 50%.
Few women who gave a child up for adoption regretted birthing the baby (they may have regretted not keeping the baby, but that is not the issue). A lot of women have emotional scars from having an abortion. Be careful when you may be playing God with your choice.
I have not voted as I completely disagree with carrying out a poll on this topic. I do think however that you would do well to seriously contemplate adoption.
However, I am intrigued by something; you have gone through 2 miscarriages before getting pregnant a 3rd time all in the space of a few months. You obviously wanted a child quite badly at the start of the year to try so hard (unless you are just careless with contraception). Could it be that through fear of losing another baby you have 'detached' from the pregnancy process and are trying to be more cavalier about it? How did losing the first two babies feel? Were you devastated or relieved? Do you not dare acknowledge this baby in case he too is 'taken' from you (by miscarriage)? Is this whole thing to try and maintain a feeling of control after your previous losses?
I think it's worth thinking about these questions and your real motivations for doing this.
You have received a lot of anger about this which in some ways I understand, however, I think you also need some compassion and psychological help.
I hope you have the strength to make the decision that YOU want to make.. you must know somewhere deep down what that is.
You both seem to have an above average level of intellegence and the means to support the child. It's only selfishness that could keep you from "disturbing" your royal status-quo...
Many women can't have babies. Life is precious.
In my opinion you are going to be great parents and one day the child who you are going to give hopefully birth will thank you for that and you will also be thankful.
Go for it.
My grandfather told me onec „The happiest day in my life was when my wife gave birth to your father"
I would be very sad if I was not here now, but Iam, thanks to my granfather, grandmother and my parents.
Iam very greatful they decided to give me birth.
Go for it - that is my humble adivce.
Please do not abort your baby, give it a birth and then decide to keep it or give it for adoption.
If the baby is going to be healthy be thanksful and happy to be able to give it a birth.
I am after a recent abortion of a baby with Down syndrom and it hurt my soul so much and it will never recover from it completely.
If you do not feel like taking care of the baby give it to someone who will give all their love to it.
Magda
You know what, put it up for adoption. Either that, or start having a poll for EVERYTHING relating to this child. "Should we feed the baby today?" "Should we change her diaper?" "Should we buy new clothes for the baby?" If you're going to continue insisting to be this stupid, don't harm the life of an innocent. Give it to someone that will love it and doesn't need an internet poll to tell them what to do. You people are unfit to be parents.
If this is a publicity stunt, disregard. If not, here is what I think.
Don't get an abortion. The fact that you put this up leads ME to believe that you WANT to get an abortion, but don't feel quite right about it. As many people that have negative things to say about you would run to the clinic without second thought. I think that is more heartless than looking for a few strangers to change your mind on a decision you know you have already made, and are looking for a reason not to go through with it. Wiggles was alive the second the sperm hit the egg. I wrote a poem one day asking how many cures we have aborted, how many doctors, good politicians, writers and artists. Did we abort the ONE security guard that may have stopped 9/11? Was the cure for AIDS or Cancer aborted? Who knows. We have NO idea what your child will grow to be. You may have the cure for cancer in your stomach, we never know. Babies are a gift, and as a couple who tried long and hard to have one, you should know that.
I am not afraid to admit that I am pro-life. What if Martin Luther King's mom was afraid and aborted him? Christopher Columbus.
While the dad is fearful of his age, I can understand that also. Maybe it's too late to enjoy a child like we planned. Maybe it's not. Maybe the baby that's in your stomach will bring you more joy as an old man, as a young father. Who knows.
What happens if you get the abortion? A life of wonder. Who would he have been. What would he have accomplished.
My vote is YES for Wiggles. Also, I think an internet poll is better than a difinitive "NO" which is the fate of the majority of abortions. While this site seems a little "offending" to some, to me it is a chance for an unborn baby that most don't get. Whatever decision you make, God be with you.