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If you are posting this question on the web and describing that you still don't know whether to keep that baby or not...well i think you shouldn't. To me it looks like you're not ready yet. Or give birth and put the child in adoption. It is my opinion but I seriously think that you are not ready to have a baby - that doesn't mean you can't be a good parent....I can't even find the right words. I am simply shocked. Think it thru really good! It is a live human being that you are thinking about. like i said - give birth and give it away if you are not sure.
Stick it in the head with a coat hanger and then give birth.
If you abort it your should keep the fetus and sell it on ebay :D /b/
With all the miscarriages in the past, why not try to take this one to full term? It may be your only chance.
Guys - I am the father of an amazing, beautiful - incredible IVF baby. I am not religious in any way, in fact atheiest.
Miracle of life is unreal - its not your choice. If you love each other - have a look at each other - what are the chances that you even exist? Are you going to take that away from someone else? You'd actually be taking it away from yourselves.
I'm not quite sure why you are doing this...Is it for fame...Were you bored...Do you truly think that this is how one should decide whether or not to have a child. I've been reading some of the comments and some of your blogs, and I am sickened by all of it.
I see your ultrasound pictures and can't help wondering how you could ever think about an abortion. Some people think you are doing this to prove a point. Well, point taken. I have a one year old daughter, and I can't imagine life without her. If you are serious about this whole situation, please do not kill your baby. My heart hurts for you. My heart hurts for your unborn child.
My heart also hurts for the inhumane people commenting to you. I do not think you are horrible people, however, I do not appreciate this vote. I believe it is wrong. Yet, it already happened. Some people say that they hope your child doesn't find out about this, and I agree, however, if you are good and loving parents, he will forgive you. So please, have your baby, love him, teach him to be a morally sound and loving person; and please let your first act of character building be showing him how you can make sound and wise decisions. Choose love; let this baby live.
I don't know what your game is. I don't fully know your angle, or what you're trying to accomplish. Whatever your goal here, what you're actually doing is revolting. Either you are actually going to allow an unborn child's fate to be decided via webpoll, or it's a prolife stunt. "Oh, see? We just PROOOOVED that pro choice people will choose LIFE if they think a real child might be in danger!" Ugh.
The most disgusting thing, though, is the thought of the two of you actually being allowed to procreate in the first place! If you are that low, that slimy, that evil....God help that kid (provided that there actually IS one). There are thousands upon thousands of GOOD couples out there that cannot have a child for whatever reason. The thought of scum like you two being allowed to create a life that you in no way take seriously makes me physically ill. Shame on both of you.
sick, sick, sick, sick, sick, sick, sick....that's all i can say.
On the one year anniversary of your child's birth, you will wonder how or why you posted this site and its poll. Your baby will completely transform your life for the better, even if you place him/her for adoption.
If you are immature enough to put this kind of thing up on the web and you are unable to discuss it and come to a decision yourselves with the support of loved ones then you are certainly not in any position to raise a child!
i dont understand why u have put up a poll, this is your child. if you dont think you can look after your child give it to people that want children but cant have them, its not about the things that you can give the child its the love for your child that matters,
First of all, there should be no such poll conducted. My views reg. Abortion is it involves gross and intentional violence. It is murder. Human life, in the form of an ovum and spermatozoon, becomes a human person during the process of conception. Thus, a human pre-embryo, embryo and fetus are all persons entitled to fundamental human rights, including the most basic right: to be allowed to live.
life has a way blinding us from our own faults we become selfcentered its easier to live a life where u make your own rules i know i did it for a long time praise God his spirit pricked my heart over the course of a few years i discovered quilt for things that wouldnt bother me which over time drew me to Christ i didnt deserve Gods grace then nor do i still and neither do yall but its there as a gift now i didnt vote but im praying for u both and your baby and if u decide to abort may Gods spirit prick your heart open your eyes to your folly because if u truely repent and repent means to feel remorse but it also means to turn from ones sin and dedicate oneself to the amendment of ones life God will forgive you and if you decide to keep your baby i pray that you will be blessed and learn to love not just that baby but life it self maybe you whated all the drama that come with this idea maybe its real if so disregard the hate mail noones perfect and people like to react in anger i dont know what to say this makes my heart hurt i have six children i cant image it pete and alisha i dont hate you but i hate the ways of this world and what it does to Gods children God bless you
People using religion as some sort of defence for the baby are stupid as religion is pointless and nonsensical. Abort the foetus, we don't need more people on this planet.
I understand that you want the right to choose and want help deciding, but putting up a vote online is just silly, you're leaving yourself wide open to the sickening abuse that society is capable of dishing out. Personally, I believe abortion should only be carried out if there is some danger to the health/life of the mother or baby, and if there is nothing wrong like in your case, the innocent child has a right to live. The soul is created at conception; if you kill your son he will go to heaven completely deprived of the chance to develop his spiritual capacities on this earth, he won't simply disappear as though he had never been conceived at all. God will compensate him for this loss, but it won't be the same as having a full, rich life here. Then when you two die and join him, he'll want to know why you rejected him...
I think it's been clearly established that this is indeed a hoax. Either way, this whole website and Internet poll is disgusting. To play devil's advocate and assuming that this is true, what are you doing planning on having this baby? By putting one of the most delicate, personal choices such as abortion up to a vote, you have given the world conclusive evidence that you should not be parents. I'm afraid that abortion is not American Idol. Only a deeply depraved person would think so. So please, do this fetus a favor and abort it.
I vote that you have an abortion and then kill yourselves. I think that would be the best scenario, given that I can't be sure you would give the child up for adoption if you didn't abort.
Sick products of a sick society. What does sickness do? It spreads and kills, so just stop it in it's tracks and kill yourself first! Hooray!
There's only one way to make EVERYONE happy:
Give birth do a dead baby
Medical reasoning can justify your decision, you're in no condition to have healthy children and judging from your photo you are overweight and average. If you gave birth you are being cruel to the child because you have not considered it's requirements prior. You would be selfish if you gave birth because you can't offer this child everything it requires, it would struggle in today's society. Do you not have a soul? or an empathetic bone in your body?. take a critical look at yourself and say ' can I measure up?'. genes, status, money, intellect and looks are all important In society today - can you give all these things to your child? it's a gamble enough as it is let alone without these things.
How can I plead for your BABIES LIFE. God has given you this child please don't put his life out before it gets started. I will pray for you that God will do wonderful work in your heart. and no mater what the numbers say you will keep the baby and love with all the Love that God showed for us on the Cross when he died for you and me, That we may have life and life more abundantly Please commit you heart to God and Give the precious Life a chance. If you have no idea how to dedicate your life to God please contact me I will be more than Glad to help. May God help you with this decision.
You shitbags!! Looks like you've already eaten the child. This poor baby will have a copy of this horrendous poll to look at in his/her baby book. What a disgrace! You two don't deserve to be parents. Having had two miscarriages, you would assume YOU DO want a child, or did you kill those as well???
If you have to ask strangers over the internet whether or not you should have an abortion, then you are not ready to be parents and you should have an abortion. That child will suffer an extraordinary amount if it is born, by the parents who are clearly not ready and by the media hype that has come about from this. Do your child and your selves and have an abortion.
OMG WHAT CAN I SAY YOU BOTH NEED TO GO IN A MENTAL HOSPTIAL AND LOOSE YOUR JOB S...'
It is apparent you two have no religious fiber or you wouldn't ask the public what you should do.
I'm shocked at the poll you are taking.
You have living being growing inside you and you are asking if the fetus should be murdered!
I'm sorry but you are sick sick individuals.
HAVE YOUR CHILD AND GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION - THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF WOMEN WHO CAN'T BEAR CHILDREN WHO WOULD BE HAPPY TO RAISE YOUR BABY.
It is apparent you two have no religious fiber or you wouldn't ask the public what you should do.
I'm shocked at the poll you are taking.
You have living being growing inside you and you are asking if the fetus should be murdered!
I'm sorry but you are sick sick individuals.
HAVE YOUR CHILD AND GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION - THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF WOMEN WHO CAN'T BEAR CHILDREN WHO WOULD BE HAPPY TO RAISE YOUR BABY.
This is the kind of decision you get a psychiatric professional you trust to help you with, a good counselor who can really help you look at the situation impartially. The internet is too polluted by too many people who can't think rationally. Either they believe in a magic man in the sky who tells them what to do or they just give advice for laughs. These are the last kinds of people you should be trusting with a decision like this. You obviously have serious doubts, I do too. I think that if you're willing to let strangers make this decision for you you probably shouldn't be having a child. I voted for abortion because adoption wasn't an option and you really don't seem ready for the responsibility of raising a child when you won't even take responsibility for choosing if you are even going to have it.
The site should be renamed as killornot.com
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NO-ONE.......I repeat NO ONE has the right to take a life ...deliever that baby and if you can't parent there are plenty of people who are ready able and waiting for such a priviliage.
God help us all for all those babies who have been killed out of pure selfishness
NO-ONE.......I repeat NO ONE has the right to take a life ...deliever that baby and if you can't parent there are plenty of people who are ready able and waiting for such a priviliage.
God help us all for all those babies who have been killed out of pure selfishness
NO-ONE.......I repeat NO ONE has the right to take a life ...deliever that baby and if you can't parent there are plenty of people who are ready able and waiting for such a priviliage.
God help us all for all those babies who have been killed out of pure selfishness
I think that you should have the child and give him up for adoption. Apparently you do not have the maturity and proper decision making skills to be good parents. I am a single parent of two, and I could not even fathom giving anyone but myself a choice in whether or not I had kept my children. I am a firm believer in life, and that the minute that babys heart starts beating at 6 weeks in utero, it is a living human being. Abortion is murder through and through, and the bible tells us we are allowed to punish peoples sins and crimes against other people. What sin or crime has an unborn child ever committed against you? What has that child ever done to hurt you physically or emotionally? No matter how that child was conceived, what might be medically wrong with it or the pregnancy, that child deserves a chance at living its life, just like you were given that chance by your parents. This is the most offensive and horrible poll I have ever come across. I will be praying for you and your child.
If you worked so hard to get pregnant before the times that you miscarried why would you think about aborting? Are you trying to see how sick and twisted the people of America are? What is your purpose. Talk about empathy, which you both have none of, your poor child to be; all your previous blogs have been about is yourselves. Your job, your childness, your need to be young, your age, etc. What were you doing trying to get prego in the first place if you had nothing of yourselves to give to a child? You think that miscarriage is hard to deal with, think about abortion. That is a loss that is intentional. You should think about that first. Wonder what God is going to say to you about this when you get to the pearly white gates, or if you'll be visiting Satan first...?
Abort the little twat.
Watch an abortion before you do anything. You will see how awful it is and what the poor unborn baby looks like.
If you see aborted babies you will never have an abortion. Nat'L Org of Women love abortions but never want the mother to see one to make up her mind correctly.
This human is not yours to kill. If you do, every year thereafter on the babies birth day you will think about what you did and be sorry.
Abortion is painful to the baby. Adopt the baby.
I've seen both sides of this coin. I've been on both sides, as well. My friend deeply regretted her choice to abort her child; I never regretted choosing to have and raise my child. All I can advise is for you to think past the next few weeks, next few months, next few years, and try to imagine yourself in those places both with this baby and without. I can honestly say that my friend, who was concerned because of family genetics about her ability to conceive and carry a child to term, became a sad, lonely person who pulled away from me after I had my child. Whatever your choice - and it is your and your husband's choice, no one else - be absolutely sure you will never regret it.
Alisha and Pete,
It is evident that you have already bonded with your unborn child. The psychology of the website is very obvious and I hope you put the comments from this site to good use when 'Wiggles' is born. It is amazing to see parents using their child in such a manner even before they are born. Take a parenting course. Please.
You need Jesus! I'll pray for you guys and your poor child.
You need Jesus! I'll pray for you guys and your poor child.
I feel sad because you are able to give birth, but you consider not to. I know so many women who struggle to have a child, or had an abortion before, and now can't have a baby - even though they want to. Thanks God you haven't been raped or dumped by your husband or something. You obviously are not 16 years old. You are not deadly sick. What is the real reason not to have a baby - by the way, a baby you have made with your husband, and the baby who is not responsible for not using contraception.
Plus, honestly - how come you can't figure it out yourself, without public opinion? You are the one who will either have a baby or kill it, not anyone voting here. You are living your life, not we the strangers who vote here.
Well, if I would be this child in your tummy, I would say small "thank you" for at least having such option as letting me live. But I would probably be very sad that strangers ask you not to kill me when you consider it, instead of loving me.
I think that you all should keep the child and not kll it. Because y'all parents did not abort y'all. So think about more than yourselves and give the unborn child a say so in this thing call life. And if you still do not want it after birth just put it up for adoption. There are alot of people that want children but just can not have any. And GOD gave y'all a great gift and if you do not want it think about those who really would just adore the child.
For goodness sake put the kid up for adoption and never let it find out about the poll. How would you feel if your parents were so indecisive about having you that they put up an internet poll over your life or death? Talk about selfishness!
En mi opinión tienen que tener al bebé; es una vida que está latiendo y viviendo en tu cuerpo y que concibieron ambos. Respeten la vida de su hijo; de ese modo van a estar respetando, también, sus propias vidas. Les deseo mucha suerte y que nazca ese niño.
I am a clinical psychology trainee and child protection worker. I don’t normally respond to these types of things, but in your case I am so appalled that I felt it necessary to comment. Believing in the ‘people’s right’ to determine whether you have a baby is absurd. I wonder whether you will now need to get the people’s opinion on whether to breast feed, what school to send him to and how he should have his hair cut. Where are you planning on drawing the line? As adults, you should have the capacity to make these choices for yourselves.
I’m seriously concerned that you will keep the baby and several years down the track he will find out that his parents polled whether to abort him or not. If your child doesn’t grow up with psychological problems due to having parents who appear to have multiple psychological issues, then this will certainly do it. I don’t think that you have stopped to think about the ramifications that this poll will have for your child and I implore you to take it down and make your own mind up about whether having a baby is the right decision for you.
I would recommend that you speak to a counsellor before making this decision. I think you need to have a serious think about whether having a baby is the right decision for you and why you chose to form a poll regarding this?
i don't have much to say...but you disgust me.
you two need to be skinned alive,dipped in salt water and hung in the sun to bloat.
you rank in the catagory of a pedophile,rapist,murderer...
how you will kill yourselves tonight...that should be the poll.
now go die somewhere
"Jeff discovered that the Web site owner, Pierre "Pete" Arnold, has worked for a right-wing radio talk show and blogged for an anti-choice right-wing Web site. He's also run other poorly done parody sites. He's also quite likely to be a man who trolls progressive wikis, vandalizing entries on reproductive rights.
But the most telling detail of all is the way the Web site presents pro-choicers, as people who somehow love abortion so much they would deliberately get pregnant just to have one. Even if you think that a fetus has no moral value at all, it's completely silly to think that women enjoy abortions. That's like suggesting someone eats a lot of candy not because they like the candy, but because they really want that root canal."
http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2010/11/disturbing-online-firsts-abortion-voting-ctd.html
I think you should have the child and then you should give it up for adoption. You don't deserve this child. Imagine what he he will think of you when he's older, hoax or not!
You make me sick. I still can't beliieve that you are exploiting yourself and this baby. Your moment of fame is going to backfire in your face. You are taking something private and intimate and making it into a joke. Being that I have been dealing with infertility and miscarriages, you are taking something I want more than anything and making it into a joke. You don't deserve this baby. You need to grow up and give up your publicity stunt. You are a joke.
Disgusting freaky American people! how dare you trivialize something so important as new life! At least have the baby and give it up for adoption so It wont have to live its life and be polluted by evil parents like you. Im not for or against abortion but in this case I am against it because of the way your deciding it. What absolute ass holes you should both be shot (after that poor baby leaves your whomb healthy and happy with a family who cares) YOU dont deserve to live.
If you need to check public concensus on this issue then by all means do not bring another life into your bizarro world. Best wishes. MAC
First of all, I want to assure you of my prayers that you will make the right decision. What I wouldn't give for a child...my husband and I have been married for 4 years and found out a few months ago we are unable to have children biologically. How does one "choose" whether or not to give birth to their child or have an abortion results from a poll??? Utterly appalling!!! If you decide not to keep your child, we want to adopt and are currently in the beginning stages of this journey. I love children with all my heart, I have worked with them since I was a child myself. Babies are most beautiful, such a joy, more precious that anything! Abortion is a negative in this world we live. Snuffing out an unborn child seems to be the most horrific act in this world. How is it even conceivable? It is barbaric and is the taking of an unborn child's life that has no voice, cannot stand up for him or herself...I shudder in shear horror of abortion.
Life is beautiful, at all stages of life and development, in and out of the womb! I know that if you do have an abortion, it will cause you harm as well, mentally, emotionally, and possibly physically. I hope and pray you will give this pregnancy and most of all baby, your baby a chance, he or she deserves it!
What a blessing it would be that my husband and I have children biologically, but adoption is a most awesome and beautiful thing! We are honored to one day give a child the love of a family! Please consider this message.
I am so incredibly distressed by this site. I have been trying to conceive for some time now and have been unable. To see you trivialise something so that to me is a true gift is gut wrenching. I wish you all the best regardless and hope whatever decision you make, you can live with yourselves.
I am so incredibly distressed by this site. I have been trying to conceive for some time now and have been unable. To see you trivialise something so that to me is a true gift is gut wrenching. I wish you all the best regardless and hope whatever decision you make, you can live with yourselves.
wow... if you didnt want a baby then you should of had some sort of contraception!! this is just ridiculous! u shouldnt abort but you shouldnt be parents either if you have to make a "poll" to decide the future of a baby, maybe you should adopt the baby out so he can get the best of life instead of sticking with parents who were thinking they would abort if they "poll" they made decided that fate!
Seriously. Have you not heard of prevention. I feel so sorry for that baby. Your are seriously screwed up in the head. If you didn't want kids then prevent it. How could you end a perfectly heathly baby's life that. If you abort him, then have you tubes tied because you don't deserve kids
OK, first, this is very weird. That said, since your asking for advice, I'll offer mine.
If your a stable loving couple and the pregnancy is not a high risk to the mother, then I'd recommend you proceed with the pregnancy. Have a kid is a BIG DEAL, but people do it all the time, so don't be afraid.
On the other hand if the pregnancy is high risk for the mother, or if the situation is not stable (for example if the pregnancy is the result of a rape, or if as couple you would not be good parents (e.g. drug addicted, etc)), then I seriously recommend you give some considered thought to having an abortion. Do some soul searching. If you are not a stable couple, and decide to have the baby anyway, you probably should consider giving it up for adoption.
In the end all the advice is only that, which means in the end it is up to you. And that thankfully is a legal right you still have.
God bless and good luck
If it isn't aborted, I can't even imagine the mental anguish that the kid is going to suffer through if (and when) it ever finds out about this
If it isn't aborted, I can't even imagine the mental anguish that the kid is going to suffer through if it ever finds out about this
NO matter what the poll results are, have the baby and give it up for adoption. The fact that you put this on the Internet to have other people vote on it shows that you are in no way fit to be a parent.
Hey I voted for birth and I wanted to share why; I hope you're still reading comments. I'm 28 years old and 15 months ago had all the promise of everything life has to offer, including having children at whim. I was then diagnosed with acute leukemia and early this year had a bone marrow transplant after heavy chemo and total body irradiation to achieve remission. I'm so grateful to be alive and since then I have proposed to my now-fiance and adopted a couple cats; life is great. However, I am rendered sterile and don't have the option to procreate. You don't know what you have in the ability to create life until you are stripped of that ability. I hate to think of how you would feel if you aborted the child and something happened soon after rendering you unable to have children. Trust me, it's not something that's easy to come to terms with and nobody knows what tomorrow may bring.
Umm first off why would you not use protection if this was a choice. . I think you are off the wall a lot of people have many miscarriages. Sometimes the baby doesn't develop correctly, this site is plain stupid I would be embarrassed to even go to this extreme. You are pathetic people to put the world in your hands of a child you so want. If the state hears about this I would have them take the kid from you. Sometimes life is dealt you lemons and you deal with it, But why would you have a choice by the internet people you do not even know. You are married confide in your husband and your mother. your friends. Omg I have 4 kids . I would have 100 If I could handle them . But my limit is 4 .SO I take precaution to not have any more . Why don't you do us al;l a favor get your sick poll off of here ,.and get a life OMg some woman just died and lost her baby in her that she was pregnant with 8 1/2 months and the died in a car crash tried to save the baby but couldn't . Im sure grandpa would of loved to have that child or someone else that cant bare children. GO get a histarectomy however you spell it and quit posting stupid pols you are terrible. People .
I was adopted and I have lived a happy and pretty succesful life so far, please consider all of your options
if you have this silly poll, then you clearly are too interested in having the child to have an abortion, therefore i have voted to give birth. many people do not have the education that you clearly have and resources to make such consideration, and therefore abortion is an important option.
I'm sorry for what has happened you thus far (miscarriages). But be thankful for the life you've been given and for the situation you are now in. Imagine if your parents had had this dilemma; how would that make you feel? Probably like a piece of dirt. And to think that we live in the most civilized country on Earth and this type of killing still goes on. Incredible. Either decision you make will be life changing - literally. Please make the right choice and have this child. You won't be disappointed.
My adopted daughter is a Doctor who even at 24 has saved hundreds of lives and delivered hundreds of babies concentrating in NEONATAL services. She told me a few months ago “DADDY you know I could have been dumped in the garbage but I am here saving lives…. When I help a baby survive... It could be a great scientist…a great leader… a teacher or another doctor…glad I was not thrown away”
I don't know if this poll was some sort of cry for help, but I think you already know in your heart that you should have this child. You're saying as much in your own comments on the ultrasound of your baby. The bond is already there.
We can't decide this for you.
You're obviously gonna do whatever you want to do, but I will stick up for the life inside you that you aren't giving a say. I say have Wiggles--don't let him stop wiggling. Don't destroy what you've had a part in creating. If you do abort Wiggles, you will live with deep regret--whether you think you will or not.
I'm glad my parents didn't put my birth up for a vote. How sick. I'm pro-life, but you two need to abort, because children do turn out like their parents.
I can't wait for your kid to grow up and see this website and then I have to try to fix the jacked up dysfunctional kid because they had attention seeking parents. Thanks. Sincerely, one of their future teachers.
Also – you all should think really hard about relativism and it’s negative effects on our society. Stand up for some convictions! Relativism doesn’t actually work in practicality. Your conscience will convict you anyway so listen to it – don’t push it down and shove those thoughts away. They are there for a reason.
And to those of you who said abort the baby life your life how you want – that’s the PROBLEM to begin with is that we all think too much about our OWN life! Think abot OTHERS for a change.
You cocksucking liberals should and will burn in hell. You assholes dont deserve a baby
I think these people should abort. Clearly they are not responsible people; putting the decision up for the internet of all places is so incredibly stupid, it can only indicate the intellectual and cognitive handicaps these people must have. To allow them to bring a child into this world would not only be a disaster of massive proportions, it would only help to pollute our gene pool with their clearly defective qualities. These are probably the type of people who will end up leaving their kid alone in the backyard, and then check on him after an hour or two to see that he has drowned in the pool. Even if something like that doesn't happen, imagine the type of person this child would inevitably become. A drooling moron who will drain society of it's resources and economy. No, gentlemen, I deplore you vote down this proposal and destroy this fetus. It's for the good of the human species.
Please have the baby. I know this has to have been difficult for you both, but the baby can hear at 11 weeks. The baby is a human being. The baby is a gift from God.
Drew Mariani, a radio commentator from Relavant Radio said today in his National Show, that He and his wife would like to adopt your baby. They want to give him a really good home.
Please listened very careful all what he said. Please don't kill a person that deserves to live and be happy.
http://www.relevantradio.com/Page.aspx?pid=1305&cid=18&ceid=5166&cerid=0&cdt=11%2f19%2f2010
You only need to listen to the hour 3 minute 10:35
Please give a family to your baby.
His heart is beating. He is alive and he deserves to be loved by caring parents
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Drew Mariani, a radio commentator from Relavant Radio said today in his National Show, that He and his wife would like to adopt your baby. They want to give him a really good home.
Please listened very careful all what he said. Please don't kill a person that deserves to live and be happy.
http://www.relevantradio.com/Page.aspx?pid=1305&cid=18&ceid=5166&cerid=0&cdt=11%2f19%2f2010
You only need to listen to the hour 3 minute 10:35
Please give a family to your baby.
His heart is beating. He is alive and he deserves to be loved by caring parents
If you have so much doubt that you need to create a poll...just abort. You aren't going to be happy if you don't.
The two of you are the only ones who can decide if you can be parents. None of these people writing to you know you at all. I feel compassion for your indecisiveness but feel it is irresponsible to ask others what to do with your child’s life. I can’t help but wonder if that is how you will handle the rest of her life. If you find that parenthood would make you go crazy- then adopt the baby out or you will negatively affect her life- but don't abort it. My question to you is Why do you only pose two options(abortion and birth)? Why did you not ask people if you should give the baby away to a loving family?
I know some people say abortion is not murder and that a 'fetus' is not a baby. But a 23 week gestation baby can be saved in a Newborn intensive care unit(where I work as an RN). a 'fetus' born at 23 weeks gestation is a living breathing baby when it comes out so how is it NOT a living baby in the moments just prior to birth when it was inside the uterus??
When the seed and egg first come together is has a unique set of DNA - which is the CORE of every person's being (personality and physicality). So though he or she doesn't look or act like a baby yet- he or she has human DNA. Therefore it's a human and WILL be eventually look and act like a baby if you let it grow. If you get an abortion they will cut up the child inside you or chemically burn it. You may say you dont' see anything wrong with that but in your heart of hearts could you EVER truly live with yourself if you did that? If you don't want him or her that's fine- plenty of other people DO want to adopt a baby.
Not saying these two people want an abortion out of convenience but that’s kind of the case. And in MOSt cases of abortion. It is seriously RARE that a baby would need to be aborted to save the mom’s life(what do you think a newborn intensive care is for?! Premature babies who come out of moms with often severe health risks due to pregnancy!). People in this world can be so selfish and self centered! When will we see people TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS and stop trying to find the easiest way out?! You guys come on! Do the right thing. If you don’t wan tot be parents give the baby to someone who DOES! Please for the love of God.
And you know what, 30 is NOT an older parent. 40 is an older parent.
You disgust me. You act like you are asking for help to pick out a new car or something. This is your child! To say that he/she won't be upset when you decide to tell him or her about this (relating it to discussing drugs and alcohol) is absolutely ridiculous. How do you think that child will feel when they find out that they were never wanted or loved?
Definitely give birth.... but then give up the child for adoption. Neither of you are worthy of having a child at all from what I've read. You're selfish and attention seeking and no child should be brought up with parents like you. Good luck in whatever you do. I just hope if you do keep this child, he/she never finds out how you went about this decision....
If you have to ask this life-altering question on the internet, and have anonymous strangers decide your child''s fate, you are obviously not fit to be parents. Just abort.
I am 100% pro-choice but feel you two are unworthy of a child. I hope you don't get to decide the fate of this fetus and instead this fetus decides to abort you two.
It´s not fair to you to decide whether or not to abort or not your baby, despite he or she is in your body, he does not belong to you, abort is kill!!!
the baby has the right to live and decide how to live, if you don´t want him/her give it in adoption!
I have voted for you to give birth though lets be honest it will end up being your decision in the end. I am a mother to a child with special needs and everyday it is a struggle for me and for him but if somehow I had been told during pregnacy that this was our future I would still not have aborted. In Scotland you get offered a amniocentesis test at 12 weeks to see if your baby may have Downs Syndrome, I refused the test because as I told the midwife what is the point of me having it done due to the fact that if I found out my baby may be Downs I would still go ahead and have it.
I have suffered the same losses you have. before our son was born I had 2 miscarriges and a stillbirth at 7 months and everytime your heart breaks in two, now my Partner and I are in a situation where we have been trying for another baby for just over 2 years and nothing!
I do think abortion should be a legal right for women but only for certain reasons such as, It is endangering the mothers health, The baby is going to never live a pain free life or will die straight after birth, The mother has been raped. ( I know some women go onto have the baby after a rape because the child is innocent but for other women all the child would every do is remind them of the rape, I myself don't know what I'd do )
I do not believe in abortion when it is for selfish reasons such as, A baby does not fit in with my plans for now or your a silly young girl who has been messing about and got yourself in that situation., If you have diffrent plans or are too young, use PROTECTION simple as. And the most sickening reason for having a abortion which is becoming more and more common for the first time again since the modern condom was invented is abortion being used as a contraceptive, one case I heard of recently was of a 17 year old girl who was coming back into the family planning clinic to discuss having her fourth one in 2 years! She kept refusing to use or to get her sexual partner to use protection though the family planning clinic was supplying it to her for free and the were telling her if she went ahead and did have this baby aborted that they wanted her to get the contraceptive injection, but in the end they can not force her.
When people like my partner and and I are desperete for another baby adoption is a wonderful thing and I'd hope that you and other women who don't want their baby would go through with the pregnacy and adopt the baby to people who are going to care and nourish this little gift.
I must say this made me cry. I think people who choose to have abortion should be forced to get steralized. I have a close friend whose has been on a waiting list to adopt. seriously. I am sick to my stomach. DO NOT ABORT......FUCKING IDIOTS...HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF A "POLL" DECIDE IF YOU GET TO LIVE OR DIE
My wife and I were 23 when our first of six boys was born in 1962, nine weeks early, weighed 3 lbs. The doctor told me Vincent had one chance in 50,000 to live. Being Catholic and knowing a bit about baptism, I baptized him myself the first time I had opportunity. Then I called one of our family friends in Alberta to start a prayer chain for him. Thanks to a loving God, prayers worked and he was a fighter, so after five weeks in the incubator at The Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, he was released to us weighing 5 lbs. I never noticed any ill effects of the premature birth except he had one eye that kept flipping in for awhile. No continuing problems. He's a professional engineer with a large consulting firm in western Canada, a big job for a big man, 6 ft 2 in, 195 lbs. He has a clear understanding of his very close call and his faithfulness to his Catholic heritage, despite many in his age group falling away, gives his wife and three boys a fatherly influence and good example. Your baby has a future too, so please let him live. It will help you grow up, just as the stressful birth of our first boy helped us put our selfishness away with other childish toys. We're not fully men, or fully women, while we reserve for ourselves a right to kill any child for our own convenience. Abortion is a business, not a moral solution to social or economic problems.
As a pro-choice advocate, the notion of having tens of thousands of strangers decide whether your unborn child lives or dies is as equally reprehensible as who are working now to criminalize abortion. The choice to keep or abort is not only your right, but your responsibility as well. To trivialize it in such a public spectacle is just insulting to all those who suffered, died, and fought for a woman's right to choose. So, this decision is solely your choice and your choice only, what is there left to tell you? How about this:
Whatever you decide, please take into consideration the fact that your antics indicate that both of you will make lousy, and more importantly, incapable parents who will likely disregard the well-being and psychological health of this (should you choose to keep it) and any future child you have in return for cheap laughs and attention whoredom, and defer important time-critical parenting decisions to random and most likely unqualified strangers (i.e. Should we let the convicted sex offender next door babysit our child while we go out partying until dawn?). Choose accordingly.
give birth. Not for religious reasons, or even personal reasons if you don't want it. Everyone deserves a chance, even this child. Adoption is a great option, just don't let your selfishness go so far as to kill sa human life so you aren't "burdened" with it.
I know someone that will gladly adopt your child, no questions asked. They have been through some truly terrible times and have been trying to adopt for a while now. Any child that gets placed in their home would be more loved than one can even image. The life you carry could be their miracle. If this is just a way to raise awareness, or whatever the reason, I hope many people see how many people are out their are wanting and waiting for a child to love and call their own. Hopefully others who are pregnant will seek adoption verses abortion and be the miracle maker for someone who has been waiting and longing for their miracle child. Some mothers carry their children in their stomach and adoptive mothers carry them in their hearts, sometimes so much longer than the 9 months. Just something to consider no matter who reads this. Life is a miracle and so many of us take it for granted each and every day. Choose life, choose a miracle!
i feel like if you are having to ask the question of keeping or killing,you 2 don't deserve to be this childs parents,so i say go ahead and kill the baby so it doesn't have to grow up with you two,you are selfish to even have gotten pregnant in the first place,so do this child a favor and kill it!!!
i am pro-choice and i hope this is simply a way for you to gain insight and that you two are not seriously letting the fate of your pregnancy fall into the hands of strangers. if you do have an abortion it will have been for your own reasons all along. this will have only been a cover for said reasons. HOWEVER, if you do decide to have the baby.....what will he/she say when they discover this? have you thought of that? this is not a game....im not trying to be mean but there is a life at stake and you are acting like an abortion is NOT a serious decision. in the end it will be YOU who has to live with the outcome. it is your sole decision...regardless of how many peoples opinions you ask. ***and in regard to you relating this poll to an election...i think thats messed up.
It's much easier to tell someone else what they should or should not do than to make that decision for one's self. Bottom line is it is your conscience and your convictions that guide you. Making a decision this big is not something to take lightly or to allow others to make for you. You will live with this decision for the rest of your life.
That you are considering abortion means you don't view your unborn child as pro-life advocates do. Regardless, from your website it is clear this child means something more to you than your pro-choice views might allow. That gives this pro-life advocate hope. That connection you've begun to make with your unborn child is nature's witness to the significance of that little one growing inside you. I trust it will prove too much for you to ignore and you will live the rest of your life at peace with this decision and grateful for the life you bring into the world.
NEW BORN BABY FTW!!
Abortion, especially that late in pregnancy is murder. A fetus is considered medically viable at that point. I have a ex who was a 20 weeker in the early 1980's and he is one of the healthiest people I know. You should have the baby, but be forced by the court system to give it up for adoption because you are clearly not mentally fit to be parents. Let someone who actually wants the child raise it. My mother lost 3 children and luckily got me. She had to take some nasty medication because she had a miscarriage a year before me and had horribly violent stomach sickness all the time and NEVER considered abortion. Most people in your position would be ecstatic about being expecting still after having had 3 miscarriages, you on the other hand make it sound like you'd resent this poor child.
kill it you faggots
It's too bad you can't abort yourselves! I've never seen anyone as SELFISH as you both. Here's a clue in case you were unaware but SEX causes you to get knocked up! So next time just get fixed. Neither of you ever should be parents.
Have the kid give it up for adoption. There are people like me,I'm 33, who will probably NEVER be able to have a child. I'd love nothing more then to become a mother one day but medical problems are against me. You two how ever shouldn't be allowed kids if your so uncaring and STUPID you cannot make a decision for yourselves!
this is the most apalling thing ive ever seen.i creid when i first heard of this. if you are too immature to not deal with this situation like adults and you post some stupid website where people vote whether or not to KILL a child then you are obviously not ready to raise a child. please please please give this child up for adoption to a loving and caring family or get your life together. think about 18 years from now if your child were to find out that you polled for their life. i am utterly disgusted by this and hope you make the right choice to have the child and not murder it. if you look at videos of abortions, they pull out little hands and little feet of a little child that someone murdered bc they couldnt keep it in their pants. for the sake of your unborn baby and for the sake of all those babies whose lives have been taken....please make the right decision and keep it.
Abortion, especially that late in pregnancy is murder. A fetus is considered medically viable at that point. I have a ex who was a 20 weeker in the early 1980's and he is one of the healthiest people I know. You should have the baby, but be forced by the court system to give it up for adoption because you are clearly not mentally fit to be parents. Let someone who actually wants the child raise it. My mother lost 3 children and luckily got me. She had to take some nasty medication because she had a miscarriage a year before me and had horribly violent stomach sickness all the time and NEVER considered abortion. Most people in your position would be ecstatic about being expecting still after having had 3 miscarriages, you on the other hand make it sound like you'd resent this poor child.
I think you should keep your baby since you already had decided you were ready to start a family. Were you not heartbroken by your miscarriages? What if you are unable to conceive again or carry a pregnancy full-term? If you think you need time to "emotionally" heal now, you will be a real emotional mess if you are never able to have a child. I am PRO-CHOICE, but never imagined women would choose abortion for reasons such as yours. I am PRO-CHOICE for women who are not equipped to support, raise or love a child. I think you need to take responsibility, have some integrity and humanity, and take care of YOUR baby.
JESUS IS THE WAY TRUTH AND THE LIGHT, NO MAN COMES TO THE FATHER BUT BY ME. FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY DO NOT KNOW AND IF THEY DO MAY YOUR WRATH COME UPON THEM.