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PLEASE, DON'T KILL YOUR BABE. IT'S FLESH OF YOUR FLESH, BLOOD OF YOURS. THINK ABOUT YOURSELF, HOW COULD YOU FEEL IF YOU KNOW YOUR MOM WANTS TO KILL YOU? A NEW LIFE IS A GIFT, YOU DON'T NEED TO BE PERFECT TO BE WIFE OR MOTHER. NO ONE WAS BORN PERFECT, NO ONE IS. BUT EVERYONE CAN TRY TO BE BETTER EVERY DAY, AND KILLING YOUR BABE WON'T MAKE YOU BETTER. IT WILL KILL YOU FROM INSIDE. DON'T MAKE SOMETHING YOU WILL REGRET LATER. PLEASE, DON'T KILL. LOVE YOU! ANDRÉS FROM ARGENTINA
you both really are the lowest form of human scum. In fact scum is probably more intelligent then you. WTF are you doing breathing our valuable air..... You two are nothing but C U N T S...
This child is a precious little miracle. A gift who is loved and wanted by a world who longs to see new life. Please give little wiggles a chance to experience all that life has to offer. If not with you as his parents, then someone else who is longing to pour their lives into him. If I could vote for life for all 115,000 lives that are aborted every day, I would.
Please don't abort your baby. If you don't want to raise the child there are plenty of people that will give him/her a wonderful home. You don't want to live with "what if" the rest of your life. I am praying you make the right decision. Thank you.
Would you consider halting this poll rather than halting the pregnancy?
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Where there is life, there is hope.
How would you feel if there was a poll on the internet to decide whether YOU should live or die? Even if this is a pathetic prank, you two don't deserve the blessing of a child.
Have the baby, get rid of yourse;f
You are not ready to have a child. A son is not a toy, or a pet. Put the baby up for adoption
GIVE BIRTH. If you don't want to be parents, please call Bethany Christian Services - 1-800-BETHANY (www.bethany.org). They have a waiting list of couples who desperately want to adopt babies. Give your baby a chance to live a full life with loving parents.
Just another pathetic couple looking for their 15 minutes of fame Fake Fake Fake
I am a 27 year old guy. Happily married and I love life!! My mother, when she found that she was pregnant with me, considered aborting me. She had aborted many children before me. She decided to ask my brother, which was five at the time, if he wanted a little brother or sister. He said yes. So she made the decision to keep me. When I found this out I didn't know how to feel. I wasn't mad at my mother or anything but to think that I would not be alive today because she just didn't want me at the time is scary. I could have just been blotted out of existence. I love to make people laugh. I try to encourage and lift people up. I laugh everyday with my wife. Sometimes when I hear things like this I think that my wife would not be cherished, my friends and family may not have laughed as much, my future children would not exist, I would not have gotten the chance to love life as much as I do if my mother had decided to abort me. I hope and pray that you choose to let your baby live. If you are not ready for parenthood please give him/her up for adoption so that it can have a chance to be loved by someone who does want him/her. I am praying for you.
Why am I such a whore?
Let him alive, please. you can fell his love. he is a person now, is the person you most will love. Don't worry about being a perfect person, it's impossible. Just do what you can, with love.
please, let us know your decision.
Without question you should have this baby and without question you should find a loving family to adopt him. My brother and sister-in-law were unable to have kids of their own and ended up adopting 2 babies from Guatemala. Years before this happened they had found out about a teenage girl who was pregnant but didn't want the baby and they were going to adopt. She decided it was too much of an inconvenience to her or would ruin her figure or something equally selfish and had an abortion. That was my niece or nephew. Your selfishness is no exuse for murder.
To the childish idoit who posted using Donna H at 11:11pm, I am Donna H and I am not a whore, what is your problem??
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i think what you are doing is disgusting. if you have suffered miscarriages in the past would you not jump at the chance to have a healthy baby and give it a chance in life. you have no good reason to end that childs life. IF YOUR HAVING TO HOLD A VOTE, THEN YOU NO WAY DESERVE THAT CHILD! this is obviously been done for publicity or money! there are so many people out there that would love a child of there own. your evil people..
oh god i hope you keep it and put it up for adoption so someone who actually likes children and treasures life can take care of him! i feel for this baby and the pain that you are putting him through....
Why are you doing this? It is so clearly a pro-life prank that it boggles my mind that you find it clever. The only logical assumption is that you are trying to bait pro-choicers whom you seem to think want everyone to abort. I could explain to you why that opinion has no basis in reality but you seem to be lacking in critical thinking.
1. Assuming that this is truly a pro-life prank, my sincerest thought is that you seek counseling immediately to determine why you are so desperately seeking the limelight as to use a potential child as a publicity stunt.
2. Assuming that you have no real concerns either way about your pregnancy, my sincerest thought is that you seek counseling immediately to determine why you would allow complete strangers and Internet trolls rather than your own family and doctors to decide the outcome of your pregnancy.
3. If you are planning on having a child who will eventually learn that your cared so little as to allow the Internet to vote on his/her existence, my sincerest thought is that you seek counseling immediately. It is also my greatest hope that you put the child up for adoption. No living being should be used as a publicity stunt. Who would want to be born into a family that cares so little about his/her well being.
4. If you are so passive-aggressive that you need to either blame liberals for aborting, for miscarrying, or for carrying to term a baby whom you clearly don't care about, my sincerest hope is that you seek immediately counseling.
I'm adamantly pro-choice. In spite of your best efforts, you have proven that liberals such as I care more about the health and well being of your fetus and the child it may become than you do. Actually, it's liberals such as me who want to make certain that you have the right to health care in order to ensure a healthy baby. Someone who wants to have a child and is carrying a healthy fetus would not behave in such away. No matter what your reasoning, this is a shameful and sickening stunt.
You don't deserve a child! Can you imagine how he will feel if he ever sees this site! You're sick!
To all those who apparently can’t read: These people WANTED to get pregnant! They PURPOSLY got pregnant! They were TRYING to get pregnant!! It wasn’t an accident. They’ve been trying to have a baby for awhile apparently…with two planned pregnancies that ended in a miscarriage. This was done ON PURPOSE! It was NOT an accident people! They are able to take full responsibility for this child…it’s not like they are teenagers. They were never going to give it up for adoption. They were going to have a baby and keep it. OR, maybe they got pregnant to do this twisted social experiment? Either way, they did it on purpose. There is no good reason to get an abortion in this situation…I personally believe abortion is wrong. It IS murder. Nothing to do with religion for me. Am I a Christian? Yes. But my brain hasn’t been “poisoned” like you atheists are saying. I wasn’t RAISED in any kind of religious environment…to be honest I’m not all that religious. I don’t go to church, don’t read my bible often, have no scriptures memorized, don’t pray every night. I AM a Christian…but I never claimed to be a good one. For me abortion is about right and wrong. MURDER is wrong. They’ve gotten into this situation on purpose. And they are the most disgusting people I’ve ever seen. May God give you what you deserve. I’d like to say what I think you deserve, but that is just one more sin I’d have to repent, so I won’t. I pray that you never ever ever never everrrr fall pregnant again.
Regardless of what decision you make , i think you child would be disgusted if he or she found out that their whole existence depended on the public making that decision for you, the whole point of bringing a child into this world, is because you and your partner would like to create a beautiful human being.
Personally, creating this website so that millions of people can vote on weather you abort or keep this baby is ludicrous, if you are usure than technically there is some doubt, i would dislike for that child to feel unwanted.Im not disputing the fact that you two would make good parents, but if you are already thinking about terminating your pregnancy, why bother getting pregnant in the first place
Regardless of what decision you make , i think you child would be disgusted if he or she found out that their whole existence depended on the public making that decision for you, the whole point of bringing a child into this world, is because you and your partner would like to create a beautiful human being.
Personally, creating this website so that millions of people can vote on weather you abort or keep this baby is ludicrous, if you are usure than technically there is some doubt, i would dislike for that child to feel unwanted.Im not disputing the fact that you two would make good parents, but if you are already thinking about terminating your pregnancy, why bother getting pregnant in the first place
Regardless of what decision you make , i think you child would be disgusted if he or she found out that their whole existence depended on the public making that decision for you, the whole point of bringing a child into this world, is because you and your partner would like to create a beautiful human being.
Personally, creating this website so that millions of people can vote on weather you abort or keep this baby is ludicrous, if you are usure than technically there is some doubt, i would dislike for that child to feel unwanted.Im not disputing the fact that you two would make good parents, but if you are already thinking about terminating your pregnancy, why bother getting pregnant in the first place
I hope you remember that there are people out there who can't get pregnant or have miscarriages (as I've read that you have). Count yourself lucky that you are pregnant!
you should not have this baby if u have to vote on it..YOUR SICK
You two should be jailed for life. you sick filthy murders! And if thats not bad enough, you wait for the exact cut of line (20 weeks)! people have given birth with 20 weeks you assholes! Give birth, but put the baby up for adoption. No one deserves you as parents.
This is ridiculous. Should I kill this inoffensive creature that is called MY sun or not. Why don't you ask him! Shame
I'm a whore!
You don't deserve to parent a beautiful child. I am prochoice and I choose that you put this child up for adoption the minute it pops out. You don't wait till a fetus is viable for this decision...what if you abort a live child. Please please let some family that wants a baby desperately have your child.
Since ya'll are so Selfish, My Husband and I will adopt your baby!
Sincerely,
Herbert, Kathryn and Estelle (20weeks Fetus) Estay.
You are funny, you write "One 4chan user even posted videos of himself abusing his cat Dusty in order to get attention." as if what you are doing is any better.
Maybe I will start a poll and see how many people think you two should be locked up.
i cant believe thats even a question!!! give birth and i will adpt it!!
Your Baby has a Natural and Inalienable Right to Life; just as you two do. To end its life after it has done no harm to anyone else would be tyrannical of you. Your child's Right to Life outweighs any other petty concerns you may have.
every body has the right to live
every body has the right to live
Wow! After glancing at just a few posts, I am amazed you have the patience... which actually partially informs my post. It will take lots of patience to raise a child... but a lot of wonder and joy goes with that as well.
I understand that the "life situation" facing all of us right now is very uncertain, and yours more than many. This can lead to a certain level of fear and huddling back within ourselves. But the future is uncertain, and could just as easily turn brighter. What I am trying to say is that the entire abortion debate (not simply your own personal question) is based on presuming to know likely futures.
For example, one conservative female pundit was talking about her pro-life position and a woman in the audience objected, saying she did not know what it was like to be poor, single and pregnant. (Yes, I know your case is different, but please bear with me.) So the pundit described a real-life situation where a young single mother on welfare with 5 kids already was pregnant again and the father had bailed. "What would you recommend in that case?" "Obviously, she should have an abortion." "Then you just killed me, because that was my mother."
You see, we (thankfully) do not KNOW the future and can NOT base our decisions on that. So what are we left with upon which to base decisions like this one that you are now facing? We must rely on basic principles. In this case, which is more important - life or convenience? Hope or Fear?
Yes, multiple miscarriages are painful. My mother-in-law had 3. But she kept trying and the child she eventually gave birth to has been an unforeseeable blessing not just to her parents, but to literally hundreds of people across this country. I have been richly blessed for over 30 years now because my mother-in-law chose Hope. I pray that you will, too.
There is no need for you to be the perfect mother or wife. You just have to be YOU. The people who love you will do so for your virtues AND flaws. It is such a burden to have a "perfect" mother or wife. There is no room for the other`s mistakes!! That`s the wonderful thing about life: learning to improve yourself not in isolation but surrounded by the people you love and who love you. Don't act in a selfish way. If you give you receive, and never the same amount but multiplied.
You are not fit to be parents. I would strongly recommend an abortion just to make sure you don't have a child. BUT, I cant decide if someone lives or dies. It is not the baby's fault. So, give birth, the baby deserves love and a wonderful life. Put the baby up for adoption. No poor soul deserves parents like you.
I had a miscarriage 5 months ago and we are currently on our 2 week wait of our 3rd IVF and are praying it has worked for us. I cannot believe what you are doing. I do think abortion is a personal choice but why this? I also think you should have this baby, but I certainly dont think you are fit enough to to raise this child, and certainly not maternal enough to love it, have it and give it to people who want children, then for any future childs sake use condoms or get steralised!
I cannot even bring myself to say what Im thinking. You don't deserve to have been blessed with this pregnancy in the beginning! I hope this haunts you both forever. You dont deserve any happiness
yorr baby is already alive, you have not right to kill her/him, otherwise you will charge with this guilty for the rest of your lives. Take the best decision ever you took!
dont listen to those fucktards you should keep the baby. and your not stupid for asking the question. but i think you should have the baby even if you dont want to have a child you can always put it up for adoption, there are plenty of people out there who would love to have it. and dont worry about the people who are calling you ideots it just means that they are.
Here is a serious story for you to consider.
The doctor writes:
Several years ago, a fragile young woman came to my (a doctor's) office, expecting her first baby. One month before she was due, the baby was in a breech position. The death rate of breech babies is high because of the difficulty in delivering the after-coming head and the imperative need of delivering it quickly after the body is born.
During the delivery, I waited as patiently as I could for the natural forces of expulsion to thoroughly dilate the firm maternal structures. At last the time had come, and I gently drew down one little foot. I grasped the other, but it would not come beside the first one. To my consternation, I saw the other little foot would never be beside the first one. The entire thigh from the hip to the knee was missing.
I knew what a dreadful effect this would have upon the unstable nervous system of the mother. The family would almost certainly impoverish itself in taking the child to every famous orthopedist in the world. I saw this little girl sitting sadly by herself, while the other girls danced and ran and played.
I could slow my hand; I could delay those few short moments.
No one in this world would ever know. The mother, after the first shock of grief, would be glad she had lost a child so handicapped. The little pink foot on the good side bobbed out from its protecting towel and pressed firmly against my slowly moving hand into whose keeping the safety of the mother and baby had been entrusted.
I couldn't do it. I delivered the baby with her pitiful little leg. Every foreboding came true. The mother was in the hospital several months-she looked like a ghost of her former self. As the years went on, I blamed myself bitterly for not having had the strength to yield to my temptation.
Our hospital stages an elaborate Christmas party each year for the staff. This past year, three lovely young musicians on the stage played softly in unison with the organ. I was especially fascinated by the young harpist. She played extraordinarily well, as if she loved it. Her slender fingers flicked across the strings, and her face was upturned as if the world that moment were a wonderful and holy place.
When the short program was over, there came running down the aisle a woman I did not know. "Oh, you saw her," she cried. "You must have recognized your baby. That was my daughter who played the harp-the little girl who was born with only one good leg 17 years ago. We tried everything at first, but now she has a whole artificial leg on that side. Best of all, through all those years, she learned to use her hands so wonderfully. She is going to be one of the world's greatest harpists. She is my whole life and now she is so happy . . . And here she is!" The sweet young girl had quietly approached us, her eyes glowing. Impulsively, I took the child in my arms. Across her warm young shoulder I saw the creeping clock of the delivery room 17 years before. I lived again those awful moments when her life was in my hand. As the last the last strains of "Silent Night" faded, I found comfort I had waited for so long.
(Adapted from "Family News From Dr. James Dobson," December 1993, as condensed from the book, Christmas in My Heart, by Joe Wheeler, Review & Herald Publishing Co., 1993.)
Based on what I've read, I'm going to wager that regardless of the actual voting you will have a "miraculously strong" vote in favour of having the child. If you want to be honest about it, have a neutral 3rd party conduct the poll and post methods + results+ only count votes from individual URL's. Otherwise you are simply making a stunt and reinforcing the need for IQ/means testing before pregnancy.
Give birth and then give up the baby for adoption!
People on both sides so desperately want to tell the other what to do. Keep your hands off my womb! Don't kill your baby! Well here's your chance to make your opinion count. I don't see why people are offended. This is a chance to put a pro-life or pro-choice stance into action. It's a little twisted, but at it's core, the idea of it makes a pretty good point. That is, it really isn't anyone else's call, but when faced with the actual chance to choose whether their unborn baby lives or dies, a lot of people just act like self involved assholes.
I am totally pro choice. But when faced with the question from real people, I voted have it.
wow, I cannot believe that you allow such private decision. I say keep the baby or adopt him out. Oh heck. I will take the sweetangel. There are people who can't have kids and That's not fair. May god save this baby....FOR BREAKFAST TOMORROW.
For the sake of humanity, I hope you are just a lame person who is doing this for attention. I really hope you are a person of substance who is just doing some sort of a sociological experiment. I hope that you are faking this whole thing. If not, I vote that you have the child and give the child to a loving family. Then, rush down to the clinic and get yourself sterilized.
wow, I cannot believe that you allow such private decision. I say keep the baby or adopt him out. Oh heck. I will take the sweetangel. There are people who can't have kids and That's not fair. May god save this baby.
If you decide to abort, please contact me before finalizing the arrangements and I will make it worth your while to reconsider. All life is precious, including you and your child. Nobody should perish as a result of a poll or desire to ease the parent's responsibilities. Please give this baby life and the baby will fill yours with love. I WILL TRIPLE WHATEVER OFFER THIS FAGGOT HAS. ABORT.
If you decide to abort, please contact me before finalizing the arrangements and I will make it worth your while to reconsider. All life is precious, including you and your child. Nobody should perish as a result of a poll or desire to ease the parent's responsibilities. Please give this baby life and the baby will fill yours with love.
ME MAD. ME POOP ON FACE.
I'm jealous, because no man will ever fuck me.
You are so so so STUPID, I can not believe it!
Whether for or against i find it hard to believe that so many people are giving this couple their honest opinions on what they should do. Anybody who has voted on this poll is as deranged as these people themselves, how can so many people treat this as though it's a game or an everyday poll?
I was and still am sickened that anyone would set up a website based on their control over someone elses life. It completely undermines any right the living and growing child inside this womans stomach has.
A child is not what this woman or man deserves but a child is what they have and their decision of whether to murder this child is theirs but i am ashamed to say i come from the same species as anyone who could even consider such a disgusting act on a tiny human life.
I only hope that at some point in this couples worthless life, they are faced with a situation where their life is in the control of another human, someone who should show them unconditional love, and i hope they beg and beg for mercy.
Pete and Alisha I hope your selfish and sick souls burn in hell!
After having posted the pictures of your sonogram and describing the movement of your baby and the growth of your fetus - I would have hoped that your love for life would have given you the correct answer by now.
You are one with this baby - regardless of December 9th. You now have a growing bond, and you're debating terminating it.
I am in now means leaving a hatred comment - I am voicing my opinion like you asked. It says you have had miscarriages before? Now you want to abort? Saying that is hard on the heart.
I hope you take into consideration that for once there is a healthy growing baby inside of you - and you as a mother shouldn't let this opportunity go... life is a beautiful thing and your baby will be beautiful too.
Only you know what is best for you and your family. The answer will come to you.
It seems pretty obvious to me that if you wanted a majority opinion it is that you should give birth and give the baby up for adoption as neither of you is obviously deserving of or responsible enough to nurture a child in a healthy manner. If you do keep the poor child you will no doubt attempt to somehow exploit him/her for another 15 minutes of fame. You are a perfect example of why forced sterilizations should be legal. I feel very sorry for any children that might end up with you for parents. I'm a complete faggot and I know way better than you what you should do with your genitals.
Because she's worth it.
It seems pretty obvious to me that if you wanted a majority opinion it is that you should give birth and give the baby up for adoption as neither of you is obviously deserving of or responsible enough to nurture a child in a healthy manner. If you do keep the poor child you will no doubt attempt to somehow exploit him/her for another 15 minutes of fame. You are a perfect example of why forced sterilizations should be legal. I feel very sorry for any children that might end up with you for parents.
My God is a jealous God, and he wants your fetus. Give it to him!!!
God is giving you another chance to have a baby-don't blow it!!
I'm a bitch.
Your parents should've had a similar poll and aborted you both.
FUCKOFF FIXED!!!! HERP DERP DERP BLARGH I SO MAD!
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I'm a bitch.
FUCKOFF FIXED!!!!
This is the dumbest, most ridiculous poll I've ever heard of. What kind of idiots have three miscarriages and then ask the world if they should abort their, now successful pregnancy?
My husband and I tried and tried, and a miscarriage and a molar pregnancy later, we have the most wonderful 16 month old boy the world could ask for.
Your pregnancy is a gift... and my opinion? You idiots should keep the baby, give it up for adoption so it can have parents that will love him/her and get those tubes tied so you are unable to pull a stupid stunt like this again.
Just think, in a couple months that tender cut of human veal could be on my dinner plate.
Just think, in a couple months that tender cut of human veal could be on my dinner plate.
Just think, in a couple months that tender cut of human veal could be on my dinner plate.
I would hope this couple decides to have the baby. However, I don't think anyone who condones something like a survey to decide the fate of their unborn child is fit to be a parent. HAVE THE BABY AND PUT IT UP FOR ADOPTION! Tired of crazy kids running around...crazy parents are the source. Smarten up or end your own life!
Just think, in a couple months that tender cut of human veal could be on my dinner plate.
Anybody so MIND-BLOWINGLY stupid that they would leave this decision up to an anonymous internet poll should not be procreating.
Besides, if you did decide to give birth, how would that child feel if they found out about this when they're a little older? Because I guarantee it would be impossible to keep it a secret.
YOUR MURDERERS!!!!! I HOPE U BOTH ROT IN HELL YOUR PAIR OF OXYGEN THIEFS!!!!!!! I HOPE THT CHILD HAUNTS YOU U FAT CUNT!!! NEITHER OF YOU DESEARVE 2 BE PARENTS!!!! SCUM!!!! HERP DERP DERP I MAD!!!!!
Just think, in a couple months that tender cut of human veal could be on my dinner plate.
Please, please have your little baby. Don't dream of killing it. You will love the wee pet when it is born. It will bring you and your husband great joy and it is good to forget about ourselves. We are all basically selfish but your own baby changes all that.
First of all I think that you guys are idiots for making your desicion based on what people put on here. Second of all the precious baby thats growing in your belly every day did not decide if he/she wanted to be born, that baby is a miracle from God. My friend was 8 months pregnant and lost her baby on the 16th unwillingly and she was so excited and pumped for her baby boy only to have him taken from her. If you don't want kids then you shouldn't spread your legs, but seeing as how you are pregnant now and want to kill the precious baby then I would suggest putting it up for adoption because there are thousands of people who CAN'T have kids who would be thrilled for a miracle lke the one growing in your belly. So do NOT abort an inoccent baby
You can already say it's a boy and call it wiggles obviously because you feel the movement. How could you possibly consider aborting? How can that possibly be legal? It is a baby boy! Clearly adoption is the only option if you have to resort to the public to make this choice for you. I did not vote because I think it is the most rediculous thing I have ever seen. People that are offering to adopt if the result is abort are not doing it out of support for you. They are doing it because you are showing pictures of a baby that you know is a boy and are considering killing it. They are just trying to save a victim.
If you are worried about being parents, my wife and I are more than willing to adopt your child(ren).
YOUR MURDERERS!!!!! I HOPE U BOTH ROT IN HELL YOUR PAIR OF OXYGEN THIEFS!!!!!!! I HOPE THT CHILD HAUNTS YOU U FAT CUNT!!! NEITHER OF YOU DESEARVE 2 BE PARENTS!!!! SCUM!!!!
If you're not ready to be parents then you're not ready to have sex no matter how old you are. There are a lot of people out there that would love to be parents that can't have kids and if you have an abortion you are just laughing in their faces. There is a special place in Hell for people like you!!!!
I cannot express through an email any more than any other way how much a child enriches your life. It used to always annoy me, before I had children of my own, how parents acted like they had some secret wisdom that you possess after having a child. Now I know what they really mean and that there really IS not way to know this until after you have a child of your own.
It is not an easy road, especially as an older parent (I had my boys at 36 and 38). I would have rather had then at 30 to b e honest - I would have more energy. That said, I would do it again without question - and I had NO help, nothing. Just me and my husband.
The pressure nowadays to be everything for everyone, including yourself is real, however it's a false pretense - and trying to fit that mold is self defeating. Just because you have a child, doesn't mean you need to 'give up' your old life. It just changes, you need to prioritize, and you will find that you are more fulfilled and have different needs yourself once you have that little one around.
I have friends that have decided to remain childless. I know there are 2 sides to every coin. My husband and I know now that if we hadn't had your boys we would have missed out - on growth and experience, love and so MUCH joy. But you can't know that until you have a child - see there's that 'wisdom' lol.
My childless friends have more nights out, holidays, money to spend on material things - that is okay. But although I have lots of interrupted sleep, tantrums to deal with, diapers to change, worries about school - I also have numerous, if not millions of moments filled with complete joy that I would not trade for any number of nights out, trips around the world etc. that my childless friends have. Besides that, I would sacrafice myself withouta second thought for my children - this is a love that you don't want to miss out on - I just can't explain.
Small warm, pyjama'd creatures snuggling into your bed in the morning with thier soft baby skin and little butterfly hands reaching for you - just moments to numerous to list and maybe you won't understand until you have your baby.Pure joy. Pure vulnerability for you as well. Not everyone wants this situation.
My advice to you both would be to look into your hearts, not to the outside world and put yourself into 3 scenarios and be honest in what you feel the outcome would be. Abortion, Keeping your son, or letting him be adopted.
You are young enough that you may be able to have more children later in life. Don't forget that you might be very surprised at your reaction to either decision. Creating or terminating a life will change ayone's life. Abortion might seem the easy way out for now but in my opinion I think it safer to have the baby and choose to keep him or give him up for adoption afterwards.
Instead of living with the abortion of your son for the rest of your life, you will have given him a chance for his own happiness and perhaps adoptive parent/s joy beyond comprehension. And you gave yourselfa chance to really make an informed decision by waiting to actually see and hear your son in person. Remember in a lot of adoptions you can still have contact with your child.
If you decide to keep your son and raise him yourself, try not to be afraid. Get help, a nanny/caregiver/babysitter, go back to work if it makes you happy (speaking to the mother) - do what YOU need to do to be happy. Babies are a lot of work, but it's a very short time before they become really interesting little people then interesting big people.
I've taken this time to comment in the hope that you will not abort your son. I have faith in people despite the horrors of the world. You can do this - you really can. And I guarantee you will love your child - and he will love you - even if you choose not to raise him yourself. He is an expression of your love as a couple - there is nothing more beautiful than that. And remember, all any child needs is love - not Wii, and ipod, college
ARE NASTY AS GOD IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE A COUPLE OF STUPID PARENTS WHEN MANY PEOPLE DIE FOR BEING PARENTS, THE ONLY THING YOU WANT IS PUBLICITY AND MONEY! ARE YOU FUCKING POOR BABY IS COMING TO BIRTH PARENTS TO HAVE ONE LIKE YOU SO MISERABLES!!!!!!!!
ARE NASTY AS GOD IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE A COUPLE OF STUPID PARENTS WHEN MANY PEOPLE DIE FOR BEING PARENTS, THE ONLY THING YOU WANT IS PUBLICITY AND MONEY! ARE YOU FUCKING POOR BABY IS COMING TO BIRTH PARENTS TO HAVE ONE LIKE YOU SO MISERABLES!!!!!!!!
ARE NASTY AS GOD IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE A COUPLE OF STUPID PARENTS WHEN MANY PEOPLE DIE FOR BEING PARENTS, THE ONLY THING YOU WANT IS PUBLICITY AND MONEY! ARE YOU FUCKING POOR BABY IS COMING TO BIRTH PARENTS TO HAVE ONE LIKE YOU SO MISERABLES!!!!!!!!
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Have the abortion and then kill yourselves because the world does not need more a$$holes like you!
ARE NASTY AS GOD IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE A COUPLE OF STUPID PARENTS WHEN MANY PEOPLE DIE FOR BEING PARENTS, THE ONLY THING YOU WANT IS PUBLICITY AND MONEY! ARE YOU FUCKING POOR BABY IS COMING TO BIRTH PARENTS TO HAVE ONE LIKE YOU SO MISERABLES
ARE NASTY AS GOD IS NOT ALLOWED TO BE A COUPLE OF STUPID PARENTS WHEN MANY PEOPLE DIE FOR BEING PARENTS, THE ONLY THING YOU WANT IS PUBLICITY AND MONEY! ARE YOU FUCKING POOR BABY IS COMING TO BIRTH PARENTS TO HAVE ONE LIKE YOU SO MISERABLES
I have to say that this site is a bit depressing to me as a faggot and as someone who is completely fucktarded. But I figured, instead of bashing you for your decision, I would share my story with you. At 7, I found out that I was pregnant. My child's father was currently married (but separated and going through a divorce) with another man, and was on active duty in the gay porn industry. He was home on leave after doing a 12 month tour in a black guy, and was on his way to Ft. Bragg N.C and would be deploying to a latino gangbang in a matter of 3 months. At the time, I was staying with some members of his family and once my pregnancy became known, I was told to grab the hoover. So you can imagine the state of mind that I was in at 7 years old. I contemplated on having the fetus for dinner, but the thought of eating such a tiny, cartilaginous turd broke my heart. At 3 months pregnant (the day after his divorce was final) the father of my child and I were getting high on meth. That very night, he was on a plane back to Ft.Bragg. Another month went by before I saw him again, and the visit was a very short 3 day farewell as he was leaving 1 week later for the gangbang. I went through my pregnancy alone, with the help of my imaginary friend Jesus and close friends. And on Monday, August the 3rd, 2009 at 5:43 a.m, the first very best thing in my life was gently placed on my chest, my lover's feces.Weighing in at 5lbs and 15.5 oz and 18 inches long, covered in afterbirth, and smelling of day-old cabbage, it was the most beautiful thing that I had ever seen. It was 2 months old before my husband shat it onto me and it was love at first sight on both parts. It was and still is the biggest Daddy's poo you will ever meet. We got settled in to our new little home on base there in N.C and were adjusting to being a family. The holidays came, and then we got the news...one week before our first wedding anniversary, we found out that we were in fact, faggots. Our first child was only 5 months old at the time, not tender enough yet to eat. We were scared, and I was sick, and on top of that my husband had sustained a dick injury in an asian twink that was forcing us out of the military. The walls seemed to be closing in on us. We, of course, knew instantly, though, that no matter how difficult things got, we were fucking stupid...all (now) 4 of us. We got out of the service and moved home when I was 5 months pregnant, and on Monday September 6th, 2010 at 6:08 a.m, they laid the second best thing in my life on my chest..this one also weighing in at 5 lbs 15 oz, and 18.5 inches long, my second favorite chestshit. These shits have been the most difficult challenge in my life, but they have also been the most rewarding, loving, precious, entertaining, amazing blessing and gift that I could have ever asked for. Each day, I watch them reach new milestones, with walking, hearing their first words, my oldest saying mama is the most beautiful sound in the world. My youngest lays there and smiles in her sleep or when she gets kisses. Having shit on your chest is not meant to be an easy thing, it is challenging and stressful, but it is so wonderful. I love my job as a mother and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I really hope that my story has influenced your decision somewhat, or that you've taken the time to even read it. Having a shit on your chest is a love like no other. For your sake and this baby's, please have this child. More people regret an abortion than having the child. I've never heard someone say that they wish they would have aborted their baby, but I've heard countless parents say the regret an abortion. I encourage you to really consider what is BEST, not what is most CONVENIENT. I hope that this helps. Bless you in this decision.
wtf u gays ar the more stupid person on earth!!!!!! GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION!!!!!!!!! HAVE THE BABYYYY!!!!!!!!!! AM PREGNAT RIGHT NOW AM 24WEEKS AND I DONT KNOW HOW CAN A MOTHER DO THIS SHITTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!FUCK U BOTH MANNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Are you kidding me right now???
Let me ask you this....Would you kill this baby if it was living outside of you? This is a living human being and just happens to be inside you vs. in this sick world. You say you don't know if you're ready to be parents?...What were you doing to prevent a pregnancy?
As many have already said...there are so many educated couples trying to have children and can't! I know so many people personally who are unable to conceive a child and would do anything to have that baby with a perfectly beating heart!!!
I hope & pray that God will direct you in the right direction....and I will be praying for the continued life of this child!
Hi, Pete and Alisha.
I started reading through some of the comments here, but stopped because they were making me sad.
If I were you, I would choose life. I had a miscarriage a year and a half ago, and I understand the fear and uncertainty it creates. Though we have not been able to get pregnant again since, we are currently pursuing adoption as a way to extend our family. Though you don’t know me, I would like to ask that you seriously consider that as an alternative to abortion. There are other women out there who have been through what you’ve already experienced, and who are looking to adoption as their only hope for having a family of their own. Please don’t let a poll persuade you to give up a life that could have such an incredible impact in either your family or someone else’s.
If you do choose life and consider adoption, please consider my husband and myself as an option. We would be more than willing to stay in touch and work with you. My blog has more information regarding our adoption journey and struggle through our miscarriage and infertility. We will be praying for you!
Sincerely,
Liz
This is disgusting. Put the child up for adoption if you don't think you can raise it, keep him or her if YOU feel you can. You are playing God and have abandoned any sense of morals. Your flippancy in carrying out a poll on a baby's life as if life could be voted on just as easily as pop-stars on a reality show is repulsive.
LOL RACHEL, YOU IMPLY THAT CHILDREN HAVE ANY SORT OF INTELLIGENCE AT ALL. THEY HAVE NO SCOPE OF THE WORLD AROUND THEM, ONLY THE WORLD INSIDE THEIR TINY LITTLE HEAD. YOUR FUCKING KID IS NO DIFFERENT.
AND GOD DOESN'T EXIST. FOR FUCKS SAKE, TAKE YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS.
LOL WTF IS THIS? THE "PARENTS" SHOULD JUST KILL THEMSELVES FOR BEING SO FUCKING BRAIN DEAD RETARDED.
You have no respect for life and should have an abortion, you made the website to decide on your unborn baby but when you miscarry you get pregnant again just so you can still use the website.
My five year old son saw me reading a news article on your decision, pointed to the ultrasound picture and said, "Hey that's a baby." I explained that you were considering killing the baby and he couldn't believe it. He said "If they do, they'll go to jail right?" And I explained that what you were doing was legal. It's obvious to my small children that what you are debating over, though legal is the murder of a child. It seems very similar to premeditated manslaughter to me. Yet, those who are pro choice tell you only to think about yourself. Selfishness doesn't result in good in any other aspect of life, and it won't in this case either. If you didn't want to be pregnant, or parent a child, it would've been wise to consider that before getting pregnant. You are pregnant now though. God has given you a child and what you're doing is considering to kill it. No matter what choice you make you will have to live with it for all of eternity. We have three boys and another child on the way, and parenting isn't easy. It requires selflessness everyday, just like it ought to be required of you now. But, the joys that accompany parenting if you are willing to die to yourself that you might love and care for and give life to another far out way all the things I've lost as a result of parenting. You have a choice to die to yourself that another might have life and this might include giving your child up for adoption if you feel you are unfit to parent or love it. Unfortuneately, the child in your stomach doesn't have a choice. We will be praying for you that you will have eyes to see things clearly as they are. That you will realize that you like myself and every other human are naturally concerned with yourself only. That you have rejected the God who has created you to live for Him and apart from repentance and turning to Jesus Christ you will be eternally judged for your rejection of God and His ways. The good news is that God sent His Son Jesus Christ to earth to live a life of full obedience, and to die for the sins that I committed that I might have life, a relationship with my Savior and Creator, and a new heart that wants to live for God and knows that in Him I will find true life and joy. You can have this too. It is offered up to every sinner, because Jesus Christ died to himself that we might have life. Please email me if you want to know more. Finally in the event that you have the child and carry it to full term, my sister has lost 5 children due to miscarriages and is in the process of looking for a child to adopt. Let us know if you are interested in her info. Respectfully, from a fellow sinner amazed by God's grace toward me.